Dearest Libby, my hunny...
hi Libby, kita baru say goodbye ke keluarga wa willy yang sudah permanently pindahan ke london... nini, aki, semua adik-adik ayah, kakak-kakaknya wa ibu pada datang untuk nganterin wa willy pergi.. ayah sama mommy nggak nganterin ke airport walau semuanya pada nganter ke airport.. tokh nggak ada bedanya juga saying goodbye di airport dan di rumah...
waktu pamitan, tentunya semua sedih lah ya... knowing wa willy dan keluarga paling nggak akan cukup lama nggak ketemu sama kita. tapi ada yang bikin ayah sampe nangis... Adelle nangis sambil bilang sama ayah "Dad...I don't have friend anymore... siapa yang bakal nemenin aku ?" kasian adelle...mungkin kamu tahu bahwa adelle sekarang cukup dekat dengan teh laras walau pun kedekatan nya nggak sedeket kamu dengan laras... ayah nggak tahu akan kayak apa sedihnya kamu kalau kamu masih ada...kamu dan teh laras kan udah seperti sendok & garpu... nggak bisa dipisahin, selalu sama-sama, main sama-sama, belajar sama-sama, baju pengen samaan, sepatu pengen samaan...ayah nangis inget kamu... ayah kasihan sama adelle yang memang bakal nggak punya temen deket lagi di rumah karena teh laras lah yang selalu nemenin dia...ayah juga sedih ngebayangin kalau kamu ada...walau pun adelle sebenarnya adalah seorang yang lebih penyendiri tetapi dia suka main dengan teh laras, apalagi teh laras cukup mau membimbing adelle..libby inget nggak kamu suka main sekolah-sekolahan sama ayah dan laras, ayah jadi gurunya dan kamu berdua jadi muridnya... kita juga sering main tebak-tebakan dan simon says
wa willy akan tinggal di sebuah rumah dengan 5 kamar di daerah Putney London..cukup besar ya liv... makanya pertengahan bulan depan ayah mau berkunjung ke rumah wa willy, sekalian nengokin... lumayan kan bisa nebeng di rumah wa willy daripada spend 200 pounds per malam buat hotel di london...mudah-mudahan tahun depan ayah bisa bawa adelle & aliyya nengok teh laras dan fadhlan di london...sekarang sih cuma ayah sama mommy aja yang pergi.
udah dulu ya liv... ayah mau jemput uti dulu..
big hugs & lots of kisses
ayah dicky
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Lebaran 1408H
Dearest Libby..
hi sayangku...maaf ya liv udah lama ayah nggak kirim surat untuk kamu, libby pasti kangen ya sama semua... kita baru aja merayakan lebaran nih liv...seperti biasa kita semua pulang kampung ke bandung. Mommy dan adik-adik kamu udah duluan pulang ke Bandung, seminggu sebelum lebaran karena adik-adik kamu udah liburan sementara ayah belakangan karena ayah nggak cuti terlalu lama. lebaran tahun ini kita nggak ke tasik liv soalnya kata Uu di tasik lagi susah air jadi kita semua cuma ngumpul di rumah aki agus di Bandung aja... libby inget nggak waktu libby umur 2.5 tahun kita semua pergi ke tasik untuk lebaran dan kita semua pergi ke cileuweung, kolam ikan di tengah hutan...libby seneng banget main ke cileuweung, bakar ikan di saung, libby makannya banyak !! padahal biasanya kamu susah makan kalau di rumah..libby udah bisa ngomong bahasa inggris waktu itu sampe-sampe paman-paman ayah kagum sama libby...
ayah ingat libby panggil nenek ayah, Uu hutan, karena rumahnya memang di kampung. eh Uu masih ada lho liv.. nanti bulan desember Uu insya allah akan berulang tahun yang ke 84 tahun, Uu masih sangat sehat (yah walaupun fisiknya semakin melemah) masih bisa pergi jalan kaki ke cileuweung yang sangat terjal dan jauh. beliau juga masih sangat kuat ingatan nya... ayah aja kadang-kadang lupa nama-nama keponakan dari keluarga besar aki tapi Uu bisa ingat nama-nama cicit-cicit nya ... hebat ya liv... Uu masih suka nangis kalau ingat sama libby... mungkin karena ayah adalah cucu kesayangan Uu.. dan Uu selalu bilang sama ayah bahwa hidup memang aneh, mestinya Uu yang meninggal karena waktu Libby pulang ke rumah di surga Uu sudah berumur 79 tahun... kalau kata beliau sudah maghrib...syariatnya sudah tinggal menunggu waktu pulang ke surga juga... tapi yaahh umur manusia memang nggak ada yang tahu ya liv..kecuali Allah SWT.
balik lagi ke cerita lebaran, tahun ini keluarga nini berkumpul di rumah nini di wartawan. semuanya datang, ada keluarga nini tetet, keluarga nini nanay, pokoknya semuanya lah.. wa willy juga kebeneran bisa pulang dari London, jadi cuma aki aja yang nggak ada karena aki lebaran di Mekkah..eh kecuali keluarga Aki Au yang nggak tahu kenapa nggak datang...tentu aja pada datang semua liv karena ayah menyediakan sebuah TV Toshiba Flat untuk diperebutkan dalam festival karaoke... lucu deh ketawa-ketawa..walaupun keluarga nini selalu mengklaim sebagai keluarga artis, keluarga penyanyi tetapi waktu disuruh nyanyi ternyata hanya segelintir aja yang emang bener-bener bisa nyanyi...Bi Tia anaknya Nini Nanay beruntung pulang bawa TV baru itu... alhamdulillah, apalagi kata dia TV di rumahnya kebetulan sudah rusak... kalau rejeki emang nggak kemana-mana ya liv...
libby pasti ingat ya kita semua pergi ke rumah libby... ayah nangis lama banget di sana...ayah inget sama libby... ayah kangeeeeeennnnn banget sama libby.. ayah ngebayangin kalau Libby masih ada libby pasti sudah tamat puasa, libby pasti seneng banget lebaran seperti waktu-waktu kamu masih ada.... kamu seneng banget kalau mau lebaran... ayah ingat kamu insisted untuk beli baju lebaran snow white yang sama dengan teh laras dan kamu pakai barengan teh laras waktu lebaran tahun 2002...ayah masih simpan foto-fotonya lho liv..ayah juga masih ingat kamu seneng banget waktu kita beli paket macdonald untuk kita bagiin ke anak-anak jalanan di malam takbiran di perempatan lingkar selatan dan gatot subroto di bandung tahun 2002... malahan kamu yang selalu minta kita untuk melakukan nya lagi...oh ayah masih sangat ingat liv... makanya ayah nangis laamaaa sekali karena ingat sama libby... kangen banget sama libby..harusnya sekarang ayah punya 3 anak perempuan yang cantik-cantik dan pintar-pintar... kamu sekarang harusnya sudah 9 tahun... kamu pasti sayang banget sama adik-adik kamu...aarrrggghhh.. ayah nangis lagi deh liv...
Bandung panaaas banget liv... ayah tidur sampai buka baju... nggak tahu kenapa, mungkin karena global warming kali ya.. hujan kecil beberapa kali tapi secara umum... puanaas banget dan macet juga sama orang jakarta yang datang ke bandung cuma buat liburan dan jalan-jalan ke FO karena di rumah nggak ada pembantu..
ayah udah balik ke Jakarta di lebaran ketiga karena besok nya harus sudah masuk kerja... eh tahunya masih libur besoknya liv..mommy dan adik-adik kamu pulang ke bandung lagi karena mereka masih liburan dan mereka seneng banget di Bandung karena bisa naik kuda setiap hari...sambil main di supermall. ayah sendirian deh di rumah liv...
kalo ngomongin lebaran.... bagi sebagian besar orang lebaran adalah saat yang dinanti-nantikan.. ada yang sudah nunggu-nunggu pengen bisa makan siang lagi, ada yang nunggu-nunggu dikasih uang sama orangtua atau paman-pamannya, ada yang nunggu-nunggu untuk menjadi seperti orang yang terlahir tanpa dosa, dll.. tapi bagi sebagian orang lebaran adalah sesuatu yang tidak diharapkan kehadirannya, bukan karena benci lebaran nya tetapi karena lebaran adalah waktu-waktu kita untuk berkumpul bersama orang yang kita cintai, dan ketika orang kita cintai itu sudah tidak ada maka lebaran menjadi sesuatu yang sangat pahit dan getir untuk dihadapi... ada beberapa teman ayah yang tahun ini menghadapi lebaran pertama tanpa kehadiran orang yang mereka kasihi...tentunya lebaran menjadi sangat berat untuk mereka. Berat jangankan untuk orang yang baru pertama menghadapi lebaran tanpa kehadiran orang yang dicintainya , bahkan untuk ayah yang menghadapi lebaran ke empat tanpa kamu masih sangat berat...pengen nya ayah masih bisa berkumpul, ketawa-ketawa sama kamu... ayah masih sangat ingat bagaimana kamu berjalan, tertawa, duduk,... ayah masih sangat ingat pelukan kamu... ayah pengen meluk kamu liv !!!
udah dulu ya liv, ayah mau beliin mommy kacamata.. kacamatanya dipatahin sama aliyya..
Taqabalallahu Minna Wa Minkum Syiamana Wa Syiamakum...mohon maaf lahir batin ya liv, ayah suka bikin libby kesel, ayah suka marahin libby, ayah suka nggak mau main sama libby, ayah nggak bisa mengurus libby dengan baik...I wish I could say this to you in person..
big hugs and lots of kisses...
ayah dicky
hi sayangku...maaf ya liv udah lama ayah nggak kirim surat untuk kamu, libby pasti kangen ya sama semua... kita baru aja merayakan lebaran nih liv...seperti biasa kita semua pulang kampung ke bandung. Mommy dan adik-adik kamu udah duluan pulang ke Bandung, seminggu sebelum lebaran karena adik-adik kamu udah liburan sementara ayah belakangan karena ayah nggak cuti terlalu lama. lebaran tahun ini kita nggak ke tasik liv soalnya kata Uu di tasik lagi susah air jadi kita semua cuma ngumpul di rumah aki agus di Bandung aja... libby inget nggak waktu libby umur 2.5 tahun kita semua pergi ke tasik untuk lebaran dan kita semua pergi ke cileuweung, kolam ikan di tengah hutan...libby seneng banget main ke cileuweung, bakar ikan di saung, libby makannya banyak !! padahal biasanya kamu susah makan kalau di rumah..libby udah bisa ngomong bahasa inggris waktu itu sampe-sampe paman-paman ayah kagum sama libby...
ayah ingat libby panggil nenek ayah, Uu hutan, karena rumahnya memang di kampung. eh Uu masih ada lho liv.. nanti bulan desember Uu insya allah akan berulang tahun yang ke 84 tahun, Uu masih sangat sehat (yah walaupun fisiknya semakin melemah) masih bisa pergi jalan kaki ke cileuweung yang sangat terjal dan jauh. beliau juga masih sangat kuat ingatan nya... ayah aja kadang-kadang lupa nama-nama keponakan dari keluarga besar aki tapi Uu bisa ingat nama-nama cicit-cicit nya ... hebat ya liv... Uu masih suka nangis kalau ingat sama libby... mungkin karena ayah adalah cucu kesayangan Uu.. dan Uu selalu bilang sama ayah bahwa hidup memang aneh, mestinya Uu yang meninggal karena waktu Libby pulang ke rumah di surga Uu sudah berumur 79 tahun... kalau kata beliau sudah maghrib...syariatnya sudah tinggal menunggu waktu pulang ke surga juga... tapi yaahh umur manusia memang nggak ada yang tahu ya liv..kecuali Allah SWT.
balik lagi ke cerita lebaran, tahun ini keluarga nini berkumpul di rumah nini di wartawan. semuanya datang, ada keluarga nini tetet, keluarga nini nanay, pokoknya semuanya lah.. wa willy juga kebeneran bisa pulang dari London, jadi cuma aki aja yang nggak ada karena aki lebaran di Mekkah..eh kecuali keluarga Aki Au yang nggak tahu kenapa nggak datang...tentu aja pada datang semua liv karena ayah menyediakan sebuah TV Toshiba Flat untuk diperebutkan dalam festival karaoke... lucu deh ketawa-ketawa..walaupun keluarga nini selalu mengklaim sebagai keluarga artis, keluarga penyanyi tetapi waktu disuruh nyanyi ternyata hanya segelintir aja yang emang bener-bener bisa nyanyi...Bi Tia anaknya Nini Nanay beruntung pulang bawa TV baru itu... alhamdulillah, apalagi kata dia TV di rumahnya kebetulan sudah rusak... kalau rejeki emang nggak kemana-mana ya liv...
libby pasti ingat ya kita semua pergi ke rumah libby... ayah nangis lama banget di sana...ayah inget sama libby... ayah kangeeeeeennnnn banget sama libby.. ayah ngebayangin kalau Libby masih ada libby pasti sudah tamat puasa, libby pasti seneng banget lebaran seperti waktu-waktu kamu masih ada.... kamu seneng banget kalau mau lebaran... ayah ingat kamu insisted untuk beli baju lebaran snow white yang sama dengan teh laras dan kamu pakai barengan teh laras waktu lebaran tahun 2002...ayah masih simpan foto-fotonya lho liv..ayah juga masih ingat kamu seneng banget waktu kita beli paket macdonald untuk kita bagiin ke anak-anak jalanan di malam takbiran di perempatan lingkar selatan dan gatot subroto di bandung tahun 2002... malahan kamu yang selalu minta kita untuk melakukan nya lagi...oh ayah masih sangat ingat liv... makanya ayah nangis laamaaa sekali karena ingat sama libby... kangen banget sama libby..harusnya sekarang ayah punya 3 anak perempuan yang cantik-cantik dan pintar-pintar... kamu sekarang harusnya sudah 9 tahun... kamu pasti sayang banget sama adik-adik kamu...aarrrggghhh.. ayah nangis lagi deh liv...
Bandung panaaas banget liv... ayah tidur sampai buka baju... nggak tahu kenapa, mungkin karena global warming kali ya.. hujan kecil beberapa kali tapi secara umum... puanaas banget dan macet juga sama orang jakarta yang datang ke bandung cuma buat liburan dan jalan-jalan ke FO karena di rumah nggak ada pembantu..
ayah udah balik ke Jakarta di lebaran ketiga karena besok nya harus sudah masuk kerja... eh tahunya masih libur besoknya liv..mommy dan adik-adik kamu pulang ke bandung lagi karena mereka masih liburan dan mereka seneng banget di Bandung karena bisa naik kuda setiap hari...sambil main di supermall. ayah sendirian deh di rumah liv...
kalo ngomongin lebaran.... bagi sebagian besar orang lebaran adalah saat yang dinanti-nantikan.. ada yang sudah nunggu-nunggu pengen bisa makan siang lagi, ada yang nunggu-nunggu dikasih uang sama orangtua atau paman-pamannya, ada yang nunggu-nunggu untuk menjadi seperti orang yang terlahir tanpa dosa, dll.. tapi bagi sebagian orang lebaran adalah sesuatu yang tidak diharapkan kehadirannya, bukan karena benci lebaran nya tetapi karena lebaran adalah waktu-waktu kita untuk berkumpul bersama orang yang kita cintai, dan ketika orang kita cintai itu sudah tidak ada maka lebaran menjadi sesuatu yang sangat pahit dan getir untuk dihadapi... ada beberapa teman ayah yang tahun ini menghadapi lebaran pertama tanpa kehadiran orang yang mereka kasihi...tentunya lebaran menjadi sangat berat untuk mereka. Berat jangankan untuk orang yang baru pertama menghadapi lebaran tanpa kehadiran orang yang dicintainya , bahkan untuk ayah yang menghadapi lebaran ke empat tanpa kamu masih sangat berat...pengen nya ayah masih bisa berkumpul, ketawa-ketawa sama kamu... ayah masih sangat ingat bagaimana kamu berjalan, tertawa, duduk,... ayah masih sangat ingat pelukan kamu... ayah pengen meluk kamu liv !!!
udah dulu ya liv, ayah mau beliin mommy kacamata.. kacamatanya dipatahin sama aliyya..
Taqabalallahu Minna Wa Minkum Syiamana Wa Syiamakum...mohon maaf lahir batin ya liv, ayah suka bikin libby kesel, ayah suka marahin libby, ayah suka nggak mau main sama libby, ayah nggak bisa mengurus libby dengan baik...I wish I could say this to you in person..
big hugs and lots of kisses...
ayah dicky
Thursday, October 4, 2007
Got a problem??
Dear Libby...
how are you doin honey ku ?? we are stilll fasting liv....but next week we are going to have lebaran already. Adelle and Aliyya will have their holiday starting next monday. while i will take my leave on Friday. lebaran will be on Saturday i believe....some say that lebaran will fall on Friday... well, we're just gonna follow the majority or whenever goverment decide. I don't think we need to get involve in the debate on when should the lebaran be...wallahu alam bisawab. Aki is in Mekkah for umrah and wa Willy is already in London so I guess, this will be one of the less merry lebaran for us... I will be the imam in aki house because i'm gonna be the eldest in the family during lebaran day... it's sad considering in almost all lebaran we are always together...
anyway, tonight I would like to talk with you about problem. I believe every human being in the world has ever faced with problems (noticed the "s"). even, since human being is in womb, sometime they already have faced some problems, problems of malnutrition, problems of sickness, etc. so for a human not facing a problem is really an illusion...it's almost impossible, if not impossible at all. I believe problems come in different types, different shapes,and different size, sometime all of those attributes are actually seen differently from person to person. some people see one problem as a huge problem but for others, the very same problem might be seen as nothing...even they could see that as not a problem at all.
so the question is how to face a problem ?? well, you could find many theories on problem solving...but i trully believe that there is no magic solution to a problem. in fact, i don't believe that there's an exactly the same problem in the world, there must be differences in every problem. there are so many variables in the world that can make similar problem become different. therefore I don't believe that there is a magic solution to a problem.. at the end, human being still need to use their brain, and sometime their guts to solve the problem. now for me, to solve a problem we have to really understand what is the problem that we are facing. what is the real problem.. sometime of often time human being just jump into trying to solve the problem without trying to know or understand the real problem, which of course wrong solution to wrong problem will give wrong result. That's why, when we feel that we are facing a problem (assuming there is one)...what we need to do is really, to sitback, reflect and try to understand the problem we are facing, of course with clear mind.. oh ya, often time we are facing a problem with emotional mind which block us from thinking clearly when trying to understand the problem and find a solution.
we will always face problems along the way of our path of life... what can enlarge the possibility of finding the best solutions to a problem is to really understand the problem itself, sit back,
reflect, and use clear mind.. not an emotional ones..sound like theory.. may be..
miss you much liv....
lots of hugs and kisses
daddy
how are you doin honey ku ?? we are stilll fasting liv....but next week we are going to have lebaran already. Adelle and Aliyya will have their holiday starting next monday. while i will take my leave on Friday. lebaran will be on Saturday i believe....some say that lebaran will fall on Friday... well, we're just gonna follow the majority or whenever goverment decide. I don't think we need to get involve in the debate on when should the lebaran be...wallahu alam bisawab. Aki is in Mekkah for umrah and wa Willy is already in London so I guess, this will be one of the less merry lebaran for us... I will be the imam in aki house because i'm gonna be the eldest in the family during lebaran day... it's sad considering in almost all lebaran we are always together...
anyway, tonight I would like to talk with you about problem. I believe every human being in the world has ever faced with problems (noticed the "s"). even, since human being is in womb, sometime they already have faced some problems, problems of malnutrition, problems of sickness, etc. so for a human not facing a problem is really an illusion...it's almost impossible, if not impossible at all. I believe problems come in different types, different shapes,and different size, sometime all of those attributes are actually seen differently from person to person. some people see one problem as a huge problem but for others, the very same problem might be seen as nothing...even they could see that as not a problem at all.
so the question is how to face a problem ?? well, you could find many theories on problem solving...but i trully believe that there is no magic solution to a problem. in fact, i don't believe that there's an exactly the same problem in the world, there must be differences in every problem. there are so many variables in the world that can make similar problem become different. therefore I don't believe that there is a magic solution to a problem.. at the end, human being still need to use their brain, and sometime their guts to solve the problem. now for me, to solve a problem we have to really understand what is the problem that we are facing. what is the real problem.. sometime of often time human being just jump into trying to solve the problem without trying to know or understand the real problem, which of course wrong solution to wrong problem will give wrong result. That's why, when we feel that we are facing a problem (assuming there is one)...what we need to do is really, to sitback, reflect and try to understand the problem we are facing, of course with clear mind.. oh ya, often time we are facing a problem with emotional mind which block us from thinking clearly when trying to understand the problem and find a solution.
we will always face problems along the way of our path of life... what can enlarge the possibility of finding the best solutions to a problem is to really understand the problem itself, sit back,
reflect, and use clear mind.. not an emotional ones..sound like theory.. may be..
miss you much liv....
lots of hugs and kisses
daddy
Thursday, September 20, 2007
I believe....
Dear Libby,
how are you doing liv... been a while ya... lagi puasa nih liv... kalau kamu ada pasti kamu excited ikut puasa, pergi taraweh ke mesjid sama laras..waktu kamu masih ada, kamu udah mulai ikutan puasa walaupun masih puasa 'ayakan' kalau kata orang sunda... masih bolong-bolong.. berkaitan dengan puasa ini, ayah beberapa hari ke belakang berdiskusi cukup panjang dengan beberapa teman mengenai agama... ayah memang bukan ahli agama, apalagi ustad, jadi diskusi yang terjadi pun lebih merupakan pelajaran juga bagi ayah untuk lebih belajar mengenai agama... satu diskusi mengenai jilbab dengan teman ayah yang sedang berpikir keras untuk memakai jilbab, tetapi diskusi berkembang kepada hal-hal lain dalam pemahaman keagamaan. Dalam hal jilbab ini memang ada dua school of thought dalam agama kita, yang satu mengatakan bahwa wajib hukumnya mengenakan jilbab tetapi ada pendapat lain yang menyatakan bahwa tidak wajib mengenakan jilbab bagi wanita karena tidak ada perintah yang jelas baik dalam Quran maupun hadits yang menyatakan bahwa jilbab adalah suatu hal yang wajib. . sementara teman ayah yang lain sedang kebingungan juga dengan permintaan dari ibunya untuk memasuki sebuah organisasi keagamaan yang juga sedang dipertentangkan (ada yang bilang organisasi keagamaan tersebut sesat sementara yang lain mengatakan bahwa organisasi tsb tidak ada bedanya dengan organisasi-organisasi yang lain yang memiliki pandangan tertentu.
Ayah sendiri dengan segala keterbatasan tidak bisa mengatakan yang mana yang betul dan mana yang salah dalam kedua hal di atas... hanya saja yang ayah katakan kepada mereka berdua bahwa bagi ayah agama adalah sesuatu yang sangat personal, sangat private. sesuatu yang berkaitan antara diri kita dan Allah SWT. Menurut ayah, akan sangat baik ketika seseorang melakukan sesuatu yang berkaitan dengan agama selalu didasari oleh hati kita yang memerintahkan bukan external pressure. Misalnya untuk teman ayah yang sedang bimbang untuk pakai jilbab atau tidak, ayah katakan bahwa ayah bisa membawa setumpuk dasar-dasar dan dalil-dalil yang menyatakan bahwa jilbab adalah wajib atau tidak, tetapi itu semua menurut ayah tidak penting jika yang bersangkutan masih meragukan apalagi pakai jilbab hanya karena ada external pressure (tekanan dari luar) seperti ingin dipuji, takut dicibir orang, takut dikatain,takut dimarahi, dll... ayah bilang jika hatinya sudah menyatakan bahwa inilah saatnya pakai jilbab, maka tinggal pakai saja karena hatilah yang akhirnya paling menentukan. Percuma dia pakai jilbab kalau tidak meyakini, atau bahkan pakai jilbab tapi tidak bertingkah seperti yang seharusnya. Karena jilbab hanya merupakan sebuah tampilan luar saja, yang paling penting adalah apa yang dilakukan dan diyakininya. Demikian pula hal yang sama ayah katakan kepada teman ayah yang sedang berpikir untuk masuk organisasi keagamaan tadi. Kita memang harus mempelajari banyak hal terutama dalam hal keagamaan karena pengetahuan kita yang banyak akan dapat membantu hati menentukan hal yang menurut hati kita paling benar. Tetapi yang paling penting adalah hati kita mempercayai dan meyakini apa yang kita lakukan adalah memang yang benar dan bukan karena tekanan dari luar. Hati nggak akan pernah bisa kita bohongi. Kita bisa melakukan sesuatu agar terlihat dari luar seperti yang diharapkan tetapi hati kita tidak akan bisa dibohongi bahwa kita melakukan hal tersebut adalah karena terpaksa (apa pun motifnya...). tokh akhirnya kita sendiri lah nanti yang akan mempertanggungjawabkan perbuatan dan kelakuan kita di depan Allah SWT...
nggak tahu ah liv.... ayah cuma ingin berusaha untuk beribadah dan beragama itu hanya karena Allah SWT bukan karena siapa pun atau apa pun...
love you always
ayah dicky
how are you doing liv... been a while ya... lagi puasa nih liv... kalau kamu ada pasti kamu excited ikut puasa, pergi taraweh ke mesjid sama laras..waktu kamu masih ada, kamu udah mulai ikutan puasa walaupun masih puasa 'ayakan' kalau kata orang sunda... masih bolong-bolong.. berkaitan dengan puasa ini, ayah beberapa hari ke belakang berdiskusi cukup panjang dengan beberapa teman mengenai agama... ayah memang bukan ahli agama, apalagi ustad, jadi diskusi yang terjadi pun lebih merupakan pelajaran juga bagi ayah untuk lebih belajar mengenai agama... satu diskusi mengenai jilbab dengan teman ayah yang sedang berpikir keras untuk memakai jilbab, tetapi diskusi berkembang kepada hal-hal lain dalam pemahaman keagamaan. Dalam hal jilbab ini memang ada dua school of thought dalam agama kita, yang satu mengatakan bahwa wajib hukumnya mengenakan jilbab tetapi ada pendapat lain yang menyatakan bahwa tidak wajib mengenakan jilbab bagi wanita karena tidak ada perintah yang jelas baik dalam Quran maupun hadits yang menyatakan bahwa jilbab adalah suatu hal yang wajib. . sementara teman ayah yang lain sedang kebingungan juga dengan permintaan dari ibunya untuk memasuki sebuah organisasi keagamaan yang juga sedang dipertentangkan (ada yang bilang organisasi keagamaan tersebut sesat sementara yang lain mengatakan bahwa organisasi tsb tidak ada bedanya dengan organisasi-organisasi yang lain yang memiliki pandangan tertentu.
Ayah sendiri dengan segala keterbatasan tidak bisa mengatakan yang mana yang betul dan mana yang salah dalam kedua hal di atas... hanya saja yang ayah katakan kepada mereka berdua bahwa bagi ayah agama adalah sesuatu yang sangat personal, sangat private. sesuatu yang berkaitan antara diri kita dan Allah SWT. Menurut ayah, akan sangat baik ketika seseorang melakukan sesuatu yang berkaitan dengan agama selalu didasari oleh hati kita yang memerintahkan bukan external pressure. Misalnya untuk teman ayah yang sedang bimbang untuk pakai jilbab atau tidak, ayah katakan bahwa ayah bisa membawa setumpuk dasar-dasar dan dalil-dalil yang menyatakan bahwa jilbab adalah wajib atau tidak, tetapi itu semua menurut ayah tidak penting jika yang bersangkutan masih meragukan apalagi pakai jilbab hanya karena ada external pressure (tekanan dari luar) seperti ingin dipuji, takut dicibir orang, takut dikatain,takut dimarahi, dll... ayah bilang jika hatinya sudah menyatakan bahwa inilah saatnya pakai jilbab, maka tinggal pakai saja karena hatilah yang akhirnya paling menentukan. Percuma dia pakai jilbab kalau tidak meyakini, atau bahkan pakai jilbab tapi tidak bertingkah seperti yang seharusnya. Karena jilbab hanya merupakan sebuah tampilan luar saja, yang paling penting adalah apa yang dilakukan dan diyakininya. Demikian pula hal yang sama ayah katakan kepada teman ayah yang sedang berpikir untuk masuk organisasi keagamaan tadi. Kita memang harus mempelajari banyak hal terutama dalam hal keagamaan karena pengetahuan kita yang banyak akan dapat membantu hati menentukan hal yang menurut hati kita paling benar. Tetapi yang paling penting adalah hati kita mempercayai dan meyakini apa yang kita lakukan adalah memang yang benar dan bukan karena tekanan dari luar. Hati nggak akan pernah bisa kita bohongi. Kita bisa melakukan sesuatu agar terlihat dari luar seperti yang diharapkan tetapi hati kita tidak akan bisa dibohongi bahwa kita melakukan hal tersebut adalah karena terpaksa (apa pun motifnya...). tokh akhirnya kita sendiri lah nanti yang akan mempertanggungjawabkan perbuatan dan kelakuan kita di depan Allah SWT...
nggak tahu ah liv.... ayah cuma ingin berusaha untuk beribadah dan beragama itu hanya karena Allah SWT bukan karena siapa pun atau apa pun...
love you always
ayah dicky
Thursday, September 13, 2007
Letter from Adelle
Dear libby,
this is me Adelle.Later, Laras is going to England.And we've got a new sister name Aliyya.I wish that we could see each others.And long time I had a dream about you.The dream is you are playing with me . And Aliyya is sleeping with mommy .I wish that you'll see the new sofa and table.
kisses and hugs
Adelle
this is me Adelle.Later, Laras is going to England.And we've got a new sister name Aliyya.I wish that we could see each others.And long time I had a dream about you.The dream is you are playing with me . And Aliyya is sleeping with mommy .I wish that you'll see the new sofa and table.
kisses and hugs
Adelle
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
To My Children
Dear Libby
eci send me a nice poem, liv...too bad I don't know who wrote it. it's something about being grateful on having kids and really cherish the time that we have with them..
To My Children
Just for this morning,
I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.
Just for this morning,
I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is.
Just for this morning,
I am going to step over the laundry and take you to the park to play.
Just for this morning,
I will leave the dishes in the sink,and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.
Just for this afternoon,
I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.
Just for this afternoon,
I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one if he comes by.
Just for this afternoon,
I won't worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, Or second guess every decision I have made where you are concern ed.
Just for this afternoon,
I will let you help me bake cookies, and I won't stand over you trying to fix them.
Just for this afternoon,
I will take us to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.
Just for this evening,
I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.
Just for this evening,
I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry. Just for this evening,
I will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all the stars.
Just for this evening,
I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favourite TV shows.
Just for this evening
when I run my finger through your hair as you pray, I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.
I will think about the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, The mothers and fathers who are visiting their children's graves instead of their bedrooms.
The mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly and screaming inside that little body
And when I kiss you goodnight I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer.
It is then, that I will thank God for you, and ask Him for nothing, except one more day.........
If only I could have that one more day with you liv.... just if only...
hugs and kisses
ayah dicky
eci send me a nice poem, liv...too bad I don't know who wrote it. it's something about being grateful on having kids and really cherish the time that we have with them..
To My Children
Just for this morning,
I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.
Just for this morning,
I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is.
Just for this morning,
I am going to step over the laundry and take you to the park to play.
Just for this morning,
I will leave the dishes in the sink,and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.
Just for this afternoon,
I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.
Just for this afternoon,
I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one if he comes by.
Just for this afternoon,
I won't worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, Or second guess every decision I have made where you are concern ed.
Just for this afternoon,
I will let you help me bake cookies, and I won't stand over you trying to fix them.
Just for this afternoon,
I will take us to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.
Just for this evening,
I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.
Just for this evening,
I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry. Just for this evening,
I will let you stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all the stars.
Just for this evening,
I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favourite TV shows.
Just for this evening
when I run my finger through your hair as you pray, I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.
I will think about the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, The mothers and fathers who are visiting their children's graves instead of their bedrooms.
The mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly and screaming inside that little body
And when I kiss you goodnight I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer.
It is then, that I will thank God for you, and ask Him for nothing, except one more day.........
If only I could have that one more day with you liv.... just if only...
hugs and kisses
ayah dicky
To Mommy from heaven
Hi Libby,
I found this lovely poem in the internet. I guess this would be similar to what you want to say to mommy...
Mommy, don't cry, 'cause God is holding my hand
I found this lovely poem in the internet. I guess this would be similar to what you want to say to mommy...
To Mommy From Heaven (by Sandra L. Garman)
Mommy, don't cry, 'cause God is holding my hand
and telling me everything is OK.
Mommy, God said that I will never want for anything
and I will still feel your love all the way up here.
Mommy, you should see me,
I am running and playing with God's other children.
Mommy, guess who helps watch over us while we play?
They are God's Helping Angels!
Mommy, I'm not afraid, my grandpa and grandma are here.
They came to me when it was dark and held my hands;
then we went to God's bright light, where Angels were singing.
Mommy, God said, If you feel sad, to remember this;
I'll be the gentle breeze that brushes your face,
the sun is my smile and the rain is me washing away your pain.
Mommy, I have to go now.
I send you all my love on the wings of an Angel.
Love from your son, to you Mommy.
we still miss you liv, just the other night mommy cried while I was already sleeping... help her libby...tell her how you feel.. we will always love you...
lots of loves
ayah dicky
Sunday, September 9, 2007
What goes up must come down...
Dear Libby
How was your Saturday night liv ? what did you do in heaven on Saturday night ? hari minggu nih Liv, biasa masih males-malesan, belum pada mandi, ayah udah langsung ke depan laptop bikin surat untuk kamu.
Ayah sedang ingat sama orang-orang yang saat ini sedang bersedih,minggu lalu ayahnya Oom Bombom meninggal dunia keliatannya dia sedih walaupun cukup tabah waktu ayah telepon (pastilah sedih ya liv ditinggal orang yang dicintai). ayah cuma ingin ngingetin bahwa setelah kesedihan pasti ada kebahagiaan, tetapi sebaliknya juga, setelah kebahagiaan pasti ada kesedihan. Makanya, ketika orang sedang tertawa terbahak-bahak dia musti ingat untuk membatasi diri karena suatu saat dia pasti akan menangis tersedu-sedu..sebaliknya orang yang sedang menangis tersedu-sedu sebaiknya jangan terlalu bersedih karena suatu saat pasti ada masa membahagiakan yang bisa membuat dia tertawa.
Hidup memang seperti roda yang selalu bergerak kadang kita di atas, kadang kita di bawah, kadang kita bahagia, kadang kita sedih. Ada pepatah bule yang bunyi “What goes up must come down” yang artinya kita tidak akan pernah bisa selalu berada di atas, kita tidak akan pernah bisa selalu bahagia. Ada lagi pepatah yang mengatakan bahwa setelah tanjakan pasti akan ada turunan, tidak mungkin tidak. Seperti kita sedang naik gunung, pasti suatu saat pasti kita harus turun, segimana pun kita senangnya berada di puncak gunung suatu saat kan kita harus turun juga dari puncak gunung. Seperti ketika kamu naik pesawat, naik ke atas, suatu saat kan harus turun dan mendarat juga....so nggak ada yang permanen di atas dan nggak ada yang permanen di bawah cuma kadang kadang kita nggak merasa kita sudah di atas, yang sering kan kita ngerasa nya masiiih di bawah terus...nggak ke atas-keatas..
Pepatah-pepatah itu menyadarkan kita untuk selalu sadar bahwa kehidupan itu kadang ada di atas dan kadang di bawah. Yang paling penting adalah kita harus tahu apa yang harus dilakukan ketika sedang di atas, yaitu bersyukur dan apa yang harus dilakukan ketika sedang di bawah, yaitu bersabar.
Still and will still miss you…
Ayah dicky
How was your Saturday night liv ? what did you do in heaven on Saturday night ? hari minggu nih Liv, biasa masih males-malesan, belum pada mandi, ayah udah langsung ke depan laptop bikin surat untuk kamu.
Ayah sedang ingat sama orang-orang yang saat ini sedang bersedih,minggu lalu ayahnya Oom Bombom meninggal dunia keliatannya dia sedih walaupun cukup tabah waktu ayah telepon (pastilah sedih ya liv ditinggal orang yang dicintai). ayah cuma ingin ngingetin bahwa setelah kesedihan pasti ada kebahagiaan, tetapi sebaliknya juga, setelah kebahagiaan pasti ada kesedihan. Makanya, ketika orang sedang tertawa terbahak-bahak dia musti ingat untuk membatasi diri karena suatu saat dia pasti akan menangis tersedu-sedu..sebaliknya orang yang sedang menangis tersedu-sedu sebaiknya jangan terlalu bersedih karena suatu saat pasti ada masa membahagiakan yang bisa membuat dia tertawa.
Hidup memang seperti roda yang selalu bergerak kadang kita di atas, kadang kita di bawah, kadang kita bahagia, kadang kita sedih. Ada pepatah bule yang bunyi “What goes up must come down” yang artinya kita tidak akan pernah bisa selalu berada di atas, kita tidak akan pernah bisa selalu bahagia. Ada lagi pepatah yang mengatakan bahwa setelah tanjakan pasti akan ada turunan, tidak mungkin tidak. Seperti kita sedang naik gunung, pasti suatu saat pasti kita harus turun, segimana pun kita senangnya berada di puncak gunung suatu saat kan kita harus turun juga dari puncak gunung. Seperti ketika kamu naik pesawat, naik ke atas, suatu saat kan harus turun dan mendarat juga....so nggak ada yang permanen di atas dan nggak ada yang permanen di bawah cuma kadang kadang kita nggak merasa kita sudah di atas, yang sering kan kita ngerasa nya masiiih di bawah terus...nggak ke atas-keatas..
Pepatah-pepatah itu menyadarkan kita untuk selalu sadar bahwa kehidupan itu kadang ada di atas dan kadang di bawah. Yang paling penting adalah kita harus tahu apa yang harus dilakukan ketika sedang di atas, yaitu bersyukur dan apa yang harus dilakukan ketika sedang di bawah, yaitu bersabar.
Still and will still miss you…
Ayah dicky
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Most beautiful 10 years
Hi sweetheart !
How have you been, honey ?? been long time since the last time I send a letter to you... I have just had a chat with Tante olla and Oom Mono, liv.. I’m sure you remember Tante Olla ya ? we went to Veda’s birthday in Bandung long time ago and occasionally we met tante Olla’s family. They were telling me that they just had their 10th years wedding anniversary and they’re planning to go for a second honeymoon…. Really nice ya, liv. Mommy and I, have never had a honeymoon (at least an official one, he he he) since I have to start working in Unilever right away from the marriage day. Really good to see that tante olla’s family seems still very much happy after 10 years of marriage…
That chat reminded me of my marriage. mommy and I also had married for more than 10 years (unfortunately we didn’t really celebrate our 10th anniversary, on December 7, 2006, shame on me !!). But I feel really blessed with our marriage, I have a beautiful wife that always supporting me whenever, wherever.I’m also blessed with one beautiful angel and two beautiful princesses. Mommy is the best wife a man can have… she’s been supporting me for better and for worse, she’s always there beside me. I remember when we started our family, I was just a management trainee in Unilever, I didn’t have anything at that time. I was sent to Surabaya for my traineeship. I asked mommy to come along to Surabaya and left her work in Bank Universal. Without complain mommy accompanied me wherever I was stationed, even in Probolinggo where we had to stay in 2X3 rooms (kamar kos) for three months, stayed in small dark hotel room in Pamekasan Madura during puasa for two weeks. All we had at that time was lots of love and an old company car, Katana, without air cond and radio tape… every weekend we went to Surabaya, in a hot temperature without air cond, without music…so we always singing together all the way to Surabaya from Probolinggo in sweat running all over our body… ha ha ha…she never complain despite she come from much more fortunate family than me knowing her dad is a general in the army…she also the one who kept me alive when you left us and went home to heaven, liv…. she was very-very strong and continuously reminded me that life must go on that I still have adelle to take care and develop…without her I’d be already buried somewhere by now.
During our 10 years marriage of course there are fights among us, but it’s very-very minor and we never keep our fight more than 3 days…I guess the key to our relationship is we take and give, we compromise, we really try to understand each other. We are grateful for what we have. For some people 10 years may be is still a short period of time or for some others it may be too long already … but for me, for sure 10 years is still too short, I’m looking forward to having another 50 years of togetherness and happiness. I’m grateful to Allah SWT for sending me the best woman who is the mother of all my children and develop them into beautiful children. (Thank you shaney for the most beautiful 10 years….)
Gotta go liv, we’ll talk again later okay
Loves
Ayah dicky
How have you been, honey ?? been long time since the last time I send a letter to you... I have just had a chat with Tante olla and Oom Mono, liv.. I’m sure you remember Tante Olla ya ? we went to Veda’s birthday in Bandung long time ago and occasionally we met tante Olla’s family. They were telling me that they just had their 10th years wedding anniversary and they’re planning to go for a second honeymoon…. Really nice ya, liv. Mommy and I, have never had a honeymoon (at least an official one, he he he) since I have to start working in Unilever right away from the marriage day. Really good to see that tante olla’s family seems still very much happy after 10 years of marriage…
That chat reminded me of my marriage. mommy and I also had married for more than 10 years (unfortunately we didn’t really celebrate our 10th anniversary, on December 7, 2006, shame on me !!). But I feel really blessed with our marriage, I have a beautiful wife that always supporting me whenever, wherever.I’m also blessed with one beautiful angel and two beautiful princesses. Mommy is the best wife a man can have… she’s been supporting me for better and for worse, she’s always there beside me. I remember when we started our family, I was just a management trainee in Unilever, I didn’t have anything at that time. I was sent to Surabaya for my traineeship. I asked mommy to come along to Surabaya and left her work in Bank Universal. Without complain mommy accompanied me wherever I was stationed, even in Probolinggo where we had to stay in 2X3 rooms (kamar kos) for three months, stayed in small dark hotel room in Pamekasan Madura during puasa for two weeks. All we had at that time was lots of love and an old company car, Katana, without air cond and radio tape… every weekend we went to Surabaya, in a hot temperature without air cond, without music…so we always singing together all the way to Surabaya from Probolinggo in sweat running all over our body… ha ha ha…she never complain despite she come from much more fortunate family than me knowing her dad is a general in the army…she also the one who kept me alive when you left us and went home to heaven, liv…. she was very-very strong and continuously reminded me that life must go on that I still have adelle to take care and develop…without her I’d be already buried somewhere by now.
During our 10 years marriage of course there are fights among us, but it’s very-very minor and we never keep our fight more than 3 days…I guess the key to our relationship is we take and give, we compromise, we really try to understand each other. We are grateful for what we have. For some people 10 years may be is still a short period of time or for some others it may be too long already … but for me, for sure 10 years is still too short, I’m looking forward to having another 50 years of togetherness and happiness. I’m grateful to Allah SWT for sending me the best woman who is the mother of all my children and develop them into beautiful children. (Thank you shaney for the most beautiful 10 years….)
Gotta go liv, we’ll talk again later okay
Loves
Ayah dicky
Perpisahan
Dear Sweetheart,
Selamat malam my dear…Apa kabar, liv ? baru tiga hari yang lalu ayah kirim surat untuk kamu, tapi rasanya kok ayah udah kangen lagi ya liv...nggak tahu nih, tiba-tiba ayah kepikiran ingin nulis ke kamu mengenai perpisahan. Sebuah perpisahan bisa terjadi untuk selamanya atau untuk sementara… yang pasti sesuatu yang bermula pasti berakhir (something with the beginning must have an end)… sebuah pertemuan pasti ada perpisahannya… ini adalah merupakan hukum alam… sesuatu yang inevitable. Sesuatu yang tidak bisa ditolak, seberapa pun kuatnya kita berusaha… ayah sudah mengalami perpisahan yang paling berat untuk ayah, perpisahan dengan kamu… mustinya dari awal ayah sudah menyadari bahwa pertemuan pertama dengan kamu pada tanggal 25 April 1998 jam 00.19 am, suatu saat pasti ada perpisahannya… ayah sama sekali tidak menyadari hal itu sampai waktu perpisahan tersebut datang pada tanggal 29 April 2003 jam 10.15 am.
Banyak pertemuan dan perpisahan yang sudah ayah alami dalam hidup ayah yang masih singkat ini liv… yang namanya perpisahan tidak selalu merupakan akhir memang, karena dalam banyak hal, perpisahan itu hanya merupakan sesuatu yang sementara…mungkin ada pertemuan lagi di waktu yang lain… who knows.. nobody knows… contohnya kita bertemu dengan sahabat waktu sekolah, ketika sekolah selesai, mau tidak mau kita akan berpisah.. mungkin untuk sementara, mungkin untuk selamanya..mungkin kita bertemu lagi, mungkin tidak pernah bertemu lagi untuk selamanya dengan sahabat kita tersebut… nobody knows…tapi perpisahan itu pasti akan terjadi..pasti !!
Wa willy, dan keluarganya akan pindah ke London, pastinya ketika hal itu terjadi merupakan perpisahan untuk keluarga kita dengan keluarga dia, perpisahan kamu dengan laras… mungkin kita akan bertemu lagi, mungkin tidak…mudah-mudahan kita bisa bertemu lagi dengan mereka.. sedih ?? pasti lah…biasanya kita sering ketemu, sering ngobrol, sering curhat, sering main, dll, tiba-tiba tidak ada di sekitar kita.. pasti sedih kan…. Bahkan ketika kita berpisah dengan teman saja sedihnya bisa luar biasa...
Yang sangat menakutkan untuk ayah adalah kita tidak akan pernah tahu kapan perpisahan itu akan terjadi…kita juga tidak akan pernah tahu apakah kita akan bertemu lagi atau tidak…ayah sangat takut untuk menghadapi perpisahan dengan mommy, perpisahan dengan adelle, perpisahan dengan aliyya, perpisahan dengan aki, dengan nini, dengan saudara-saudara, dengan teman-teman, dengan sahabat.... namun, sekuat apa pun kita berusaha untuk mencegah, perpisahan itu pasti akan datang juga.. kita cuma tidak tahu kapan akan terjadi atau bagaimana itu akan terjadi... ayah cuma bisa berdoa bahwa pertemuan ini bisa berlangsung lama. Dan selama pertemuan ini masih ada, ayah akan mensyukurinya, akan berusaha menikmatinya dengan sepenuh hati, I will really cherish it,...because when it happened.. ketika perpisahan itu harus terjadi juga, kita tidak akan bisa menghalanginya , kita tidak pernah tahu apakah kita akan bisa bertemu lagi...will things be the same when we meet again ?? or before that, will we meet again ?? we don’t know.
Setelah ayah berpisah dengan kamu, paling tidak ayah sekarang sadar bahwa perpisahan dalam setiap pertemuan pasti akan terjadi.... pasti !! suatu saat....tidak tahu kapan, tidak tahu bagaimana...ayah berdoa sekarang untuk bisa selama mungkin bertemu, berkumpul, berteman,..tapi ketika perpisahan itu terjadi, ayah berdoa agar ayah diberi kesabaran untuk menghadapinya karena life must go on.... sedih ?? pasti, but I have to get up and continue living, karena ayah sadar bahwa perpisahan pasti terjadi dalam sebuah pertemuan...ayah juga berharap siapa pun yang membaca surat ayah ini menyadari bahwa setiap pertemuan pasti ada perpisahannya.... so, be grateful, enjoy it, cherish it, while it lasts... cause the end will inevitably come…sooner or later
See you again, Libby…. someday, somewhere, somehow…Nggak tahu, liv… I really don’t know….
Lots of loves
Ayah dicky
Selamat malam my dear…Apa kabar, liv ? baru tiga hari yang lalu ayah kirim surat untuk kamu, tapi rasanya kok ayah udah kangen lagi ya liv...nggak tahu nih, tiba-tiba ayah kepikiran ingin nulis ke kamu mengenai perpisahan. Sebuah perpisahan bisa terjadi untuk selamanya atau untuk sementara… yang pasti sesuatu yang bermula pasti berakhir (something with the beginning must have an end)… sebuah pertemuan pasti ada perpisahannya… ini adalah merupakan hukum alam… sesuatu yang inevitable. Sesuatu yang tidak bisa ditolak, seberapa pun kuatnya kita berusaha… ayah sudah mengalami perpisahan yang paling berat untuk ayah, perpisahan dengan kamu… mustinya dari awal ayah sudah menyadari bahwa pertemuan pertama dengan kamu pada tanggal 25 April 1998 jam 00.19 am, suatu saat pasti ada perpisahannya… ayah sama sekali tidak menyadari hal itu sampai waktu perpisahan tersebut datang pada tanggal 29 April 2003 jam 10.15 am.
Banyak pertemuan dan perpisahan yang sudah ayah alami dalam hidup ayah yang masih singkat ini liv… yang namanya perpisahan tidak selalu merupakan akhir memang, karena dalam banyak hal, perpisahan itu hanya merupakan sesuatu yang sementara…mungkin ada pertemuan lagi di waktu yang lain… who knows.. nobody knows… contohnya kita bertemu dengan sahabat waktu sekolah, ketika sekolah selesai, mau tidak mau kita akan berpisah.. mungkin untuk sementara, mungkin untuk selamanya..mungkin kita bertemu lagi, mungkin tidak pernah bertemu lagi untuk selamanya dengan sahabat kita tersebut… nobody knows…tapi perpisahan itu pasti akan terjadi..pasti !!
Wa willy, dan keluarganya akan pindah ke London, pastinya ketika hal itu terjadi merupakan perpisahan untuk keluarga kita dengan keluarga dia, perpisahan kamu dengan laras… mungkin kita akan bertemu lagi, mungkin tidak…mudah-mudahan kita bisa bertemu lagi dengan mereka.. sedih ?? pasti lah…biasanya kita sering ketemu, sering ngobrol, sering curhat, sering main, dll, tiba-tiba tidak ada di sekitar kita.. pasti sedih kan…. Bahkan ketika kita berpisah dengan teman saja sedihnya bisa luar biasa...
Yang sangat menakutkan untuk ayah adalah kita tidak akan pernah tahu kapan perpisahan itu akan terjadi…kita juga tidak akan pernah tahu apakah kita akan bertemu lagi atau tidak…ayah sangat takut untuk menghadapi perpisahan dengan mommy, perpisahan dengan adelle, perpisahan dengan aliyya, perpisahan dengan aki, dengan nini, dengan saudara-saudara, dengan teman-teman, dengan sahabat.... namun, sekuat apa pun kita berusaha untuk mencegah, perpisahan itu pasti akan datang juga.. kita cuma tidak tahu kapan akan terjadi atau bagaimana itu akan terjadi... ayah cuma bisa berdoa bahwa pertemuan ini bisa berlangsung lama. Dan selama pertemuan ini masih ada, ayah akan mensyukurinya, akan berusaha menikmatinya dengan sepenuh hati, I will really cherish it,...because when it happened.. ketika perpisahan itu harus terjadi juga, kita tidak akan bisa menghalanginya , kita tidak pernah tahu apakah kita akan bisa bertemu lagi...will things be the same when we meet again ?? or before that, will we meet again ?? we don’t know.
Setelah ayah berpisah dengan kamu, paling tidak ayah sekarang sadar bahwa perpisahan dalam setiap pertemuan pasti akan terjadi.... pasti !! suatu saat....tidak tahu kapan, tidak tahu bagaimana...ayah berdoa sekarang untuk bisa selama mungkin bertemu, berkumpul, berteman,..tapi ketika perpisahan itu terjadi, ayah berdoa agar ayah diberi kesabaran untuk menghadapinya karena life must go on.... sedih ?? pasti, but I have to get up and continue living, karena ayah sadar bahwa perpisahan pasti terjadi dalam sebuah pertemuan...ayah juga berharap siapa pun yang membaca surat ayah ini menyadari bahwa setiap pertemuan pasti ada perpisahannya.... so, be grateful, enjoy it, cherish it, while it lasts... cause the end will inevitably come…sooner or later
See you again, Libby…. someday, somewhere, somehow…Nggak tahu, liv… I really don’t know….
Lots of loves
Ayah dicky
Logika vs Perasaan
Hi my dear Libby,
Kita baru pulang dari plaza senayan… tempat yang hampir setiap weekend kita kunjungi…kayaknya nggak ada bosen-bosennya ya kita ke sana… apalagi sekarang tinggal nyebrang ke Senayan City kalau bosen di plaza Senayan… seperti biasa juga kita makan di salah satu restoran yang ada di sana (atau di food court) , belakangan ini Aliyya selalu pengen ke Pepper Lunch kalau kita ke plaza senayan, dia seneng banget sama salmon steaknya…padahal mommy pengennya makan di duck king..ya udah deh mungkin ayah sama mommy ke duck king nya minggu depan aja waktu lunch…
Ada temen ayah yang bilang bahwa dia sangat percaya dengan logika (logic)/ realita, cuma kok bagi ayah susah banget untuk hanya pake logika… bagi ayah logika memang penting karena kita bisa lebih membumi, tapi seringkali ayah masih lebih sering juga dipengaruhi oleh perasaan (feeling). Ayah nggak bisa bohong bahwa segimana pun ayah berusaha untuk memahami logikanya, ada perasaan (feeling) yang nggak bisa dibohongi. Jadi ya akhirnya nggak bisa tuh sepenuhnya ayah menggunakan logika ketika menghadapi berbagai persoalan hidup… mungkin belum bisa, atau belum nyampe kali ilmu nya ayah ya, liv…. misalnya dalam menghadapi kepergian kamu, memang sih secara logika banyak yang bisa dianalisis, tapi kalau ayah cuma pakai logika.. mungkin by this time ayah udah nggak bakal ada di dunia lagi… udah mati bunuh diri… justru ayah bisa terus hidup karena ayah coba untuk berpikir di luar logika bahwa ada sesuatu kekuatan (kekuatan Allah SWT) yang memang dengan kemampuan berpikir kita tidak mampu untuk sampe kesana untuk menjelaskan kenapa kamu harus pergi secepat itu. Terus kalau ayah pake logika, sekarang mungkin ayah harus sudah benar-benar menerima kenyataan bahwa kamu sudah tidak ada di sekitar kita lagi secara fisik,.. tapi ayah nggak bisa membohongi perasaan ayah bahwa ayah masih sangat kangen sama kamu, masih sangat berharap agar ayah bisa mencium kamu lagi, memeluk kamu lagi erat-erat, masih ingin mencium wangi kamu, masih sangat berharap bahwa ayah bisa berulang-ulang bilang ayah masih sangaaatt sayaaaang sama kamu, masih ingin denger kamu bilang “ I love you daddy !!” …padahal secara logika… mungkin sudah tidak mungkin… bahkan bukan mungkin… sudah pasti tidak akan bisa lagi…ayah nggak bisa bohong, liv, perasaan ayah nggak bisa dibohongi, segimana pun logika ayah berusaha untuk bilang bahwa nggak mungkin lagi untuk ketemu kamu… ayah menyerah deh sama perasaan (feeling)…
yaaa ayah jadi nangis deh liv… ayah cengeng ya….ayah kangeeeeen banget sama kamu !!
Ayah masih bisa berharap untuk ketemu kamu lagi, liv… kapan pun di mana pun… nggak tahu gimana caranya…
Lots of kisses and big hugs..
Ayah dicky
Kita baru pulang dari plaza senayan… tempat yang hampir setiap weekend kita kunjungi…kayaknya nggak ada bosen-bosennya ya kita ke sana… apalagi sekarang tinggal nyebrang ke Senayan City kalau bosen di plaza Senayan… seperti biasa juga kita makan di salah satu restoran yang ada di sana (atau di food court) , belakangan ini Aliyya selalu pengen ke Pepper Lunch kalau kita ke plaza senayan, dia seneng banget sama salmon steaknya…padahal mommy pengennya makan di duck king..ya udah deh mungkin ayah sama mommy ke duck king nya minggu depan aja waktu lunch…
Ada temen ayah yang bilang bahwa dia sangat percaya dengan logika (logic)/ realita, cuma kok bagi ayah susah banget untuk hanya pake logika… bagi ayah logika memang penting karena kita bisa lebih membumi, tapi seringkali ayah masih lebih sering juga dipengaruhi oleh perasaan (feeling). Ayah nggak bisa bohong bahwa segimana pun ayah berusaha untuk memahami logikanya, ada perasaan (feeling) yang nggak bisa dibohongi. Jadi ya akhirnya nggak bisa tuh sepenuhnya ayah menggunakan logika ketika menghadapi berbagai persoalan hidup… mungkin belum bisa, atau belum nyampe kali ilmu nya ayah ya, liv…. misalnya dalam menghadapi kepergian kamu, memang sih secara logika banyak yang bisa dianalisis, tapi kalau ayah cuma pakai logika.. mungkin by this time ayah udah nggak bakal ada di dunia lagi… udah mati bunuh diri… justru ayah bisa terus hidup karena ayah coba untuk berpikir di luar logika bahwa ada sesuatu kekuatan (kekuatan Allah SWT) yang memang dengan kemampuan berpikir kita tidak mampu untuk sampe kesana untuk menjelaskan kenapa kamu harus pergi secepat itu. Terus kalau ayah pake logika, sekarang mungkin ayah harus sudah benar-benar menerima kenyataan bahwa kamu sudah tidak ada di sekitar kita lagi secara fisik,.. tapi ayah nggak bisa membohongi perasaan ayah bahwa ayah masih sangat kangen sama kamu, masih sangat berharap agar ayah bisa mencium kamu lagi, memeluk kamu lagi erat-erat, masih ingin mencium wangi kamu, masih sangat berharap bahwa ayah bisa berulang-ulang bilang ayah masih sangaaatt sayaaaang sama kamu, masih ingin denger kamu bilang “ I love you daddy !!” …padahal secara logika… mungkin sudah tidak mungkin… bahkan bukan mungkin… sudah pasti tidak akan bisa lagi…ayah nggak bisa bohong, liv, perasaan ayah nggak bisa dibohongi, segimana pun logika ayah berusaha untuk bilang bahwa nggak mungkin lagi untuk ketemu kamu… ayah menyerah deh sama perasaan (feeling)…
yaaa ayah jadi nangis deh liv… ayah cengeng ya….ayah kangeeeeen banget sama kamu !!
Ayah masih bisa berharap untuk ketemu kamu lagi, liv… kapan pun di mana pun… nggak tahu gimana caranya…
Lots of kisses and big hugs..
Ayah dicky
Friends Forever..
Dear Libby,
hari minggu nih... baru pada selesai mandi, biasa lah sebentar lagi kita mau jalan-jalan ke mall.... kegiatan setiap weekend... kayaknya kita harus cari kegiatan lain nih liv... pergi ke mall melulu, belanja melulu...ngabisin duit melulu. mommy bilang mancing mungkin lucu juga...tapi ayah nggak suka mancing, nggak kebayang harus nunggu berjam-jam, bengong, nggak ngelakuin apa-apa... dibanding mancing, ya mending belanja... hi hi hi... tapi kayaknya kita memang harus mencari kegiatan lain...nggak bagus juga buat Adelle dan Aliyya kalau selalu ke mall... ngajarin mereka jadi konsumtif.
Ayah lupa jumat lalu, ayah ketemu sama temen-temen lama ayah... temen-temen waktu ayah masih jadi kacung kampret di unilever. temen-temen yang membuat kerjaan kayaknya nggak jadi beban... bawaannya seneng terus... hampir komplit team liv, ada Oom Aryo yang baru balik dari London, Tante Icha yang perutnya gendut banget kayak hamil (eh emang hamil bulan ke 8 kali ya ??), ada Oom Bondan yang sekarang kerja di Effem (udah jadi GM lho liv..), Oom Abdul yang sekarang nyambi jadi penyanyi professional, yang nggak ada cuma Oom Jo yang sekarang kerja di Aussie, ketambahan Wa Willy sih... dulu hampir setiap hari kita makan siang bareng... keliling dari satu restoran ke restoran lain, dari satu warung ke warung lain....kadang-kadang kita kabur dari kantor buat nonton di Planet Hollywood yang letaknya di sebelah kantor... seru banget deh...sekarang kita udah tua-tua, tapi nggak tahu kenapa begitu ketemu mereka, jadi berasa muda lagi... ketawa-ketawa kayak orang gila, nyanyi nggak karu-karuan... teriak-teriak sampe serak...abis belum apa-apa lagunya udah Linkin Park (dari mulai Numb, Somewhere I belong, sampe In the end)....seru deh !! belum lagi kalau liat oom aryo nyanyi lagu heavy metal, kayak Master of Puppet-nya Metalica.... sampe urat lehernya keliatan semua..
satu hal yang menyadarkan ayah adalah bahwa kita akan selalu butuh teman, butuh teman yang bisa membuat kita ketawa, butuh teman yang selalu memperhatikan kita, teman yang selalu ada di samping kita di saat gembira maupun sedih..teman yang mau mendengarkan curhatan nggak penting ...atau malah teman yang menolong kita di saat kita terlibat masalah (bener nggak, cha ??). Ayah bersyukur masih punya teman-teman yang tulus untuk menjadi sahabat tanpa ada pretensi, tanpa ada harapan imbal balik. ayah juga berharap agar teman-teman ayah juga merasakan hal yang sama waktu berteman dengan ayah... ayah berharap agar ayah bisa menjadi teman yang bisa membuat tertawa, membuat bahagia, menolong pada saat susah, dan lain lain, sampai kapan pun....friends forever !!
ayah tahu bahwa akan selalu menjadi teman untuk kamu libby.... sebaliknya pula kamu akan selalu menemani ayah kemana pun ayah pergi karena kamu ada di dalam hati ayah...
cium sayang, your bestest best friend...
ayah dicky
hari minggu nih... baru pada selesai mandi, biasa lah sebentar lagi kita mau jalan-jalan ke mall.... kegiatan setiap weekend... kayaknya kita harus cari kegiatan lain nih liv... pergi ke mall melulu, belanja melulu...ngabisin duit melulu. mommy bilang mancing mungkin lucu juga...tapi ayah nggak suka mancing, nggak kebayang harus nunggu berjam-jam, bengong, nggak ngelakuin apa-apa... dibanding mancing, ya mending belanja... hi hi hi... tapi kayaknya kita memang harus mencari kegiatan lain...nggak bagus juga buat Adelle dan Aliyya kalau selalu ke mall... ngajarin mereka jadi konsumtif.
Ayah lupa jumat lalu, ayah ketemu sama temen-temen lama ayah... temen-temen waktu ayah masih jadi kacung kampret di unilever. temen-temen yang membuat kerjaan kayaknya nggak jadi beban... bawaannya seneng terus... hampir komplit team liv, ada Oom Aryo yang baru balik dari London, Tante Icha yang perutnya gendut banget kayak hamil (eh emang hamil bulan ke 8 kali ya ??), ada Oom Bondan yang sekarang kerja di Effem (udah jadi GM lho liv..), Oom Abdul yang sekarang nyambi jadi penyanyi professional, yang nggak ada cuma Oom Jo yang sekarang kerja di Aussie, ketambahan Wa Willy sih... dulu hampir setiap hari kita makan siang bareng... keliling dari satu restoran ke restoran lain, dari satu warung ke warung lain....kadang-kadang kita kabur dari kantor buat nonton di Planet Hollywood yang letaknya di sebelah kantor... seru banget deh...sekarang kita udah tua-tua, tapi nggak tahu kenapa begitu ketemu mereka, jadi berasa muda lagi... ketawa-ketawa kayak orang gila, nyanyi nggak karu-karuan... teriak-teriak sampe serak...abis belum apa-apa lagunya udah Linkin Park (dari mulai Numb, Somewhere I belong, sampe In the end)....seru deh !! belum lagi kalau liat oom aryo nyanyi lagu heavy metal, kayak Master of Puppet-nya Metalica.... sampe urat lehernya keliatan semua..
satu hal yang menyadarkan ayah adalah bahwa kita akan selalu butuh teman, butuh teman yang bisa membuat kita ketawa, butuh teman yang selalu memperhatikan kita, teman yang selalu ada di samping kita di saat gembira maupun sedih..teman yang mau mendengarkan curhatan nggak penting ...atau malah teman yang menolong kita di saat kita terlibat masalah (bener nggak, cha ??). Ayah bersyukur masih punya teman-teman yang tulus untuk menjadi sahabat tanpa ada pretensi, tanpa ada harapan imbal balik. ayah juga berharap agar teman-teman ayah juga merasakan hal yang sama waktu berteman dengan ayah... ayah berharap agar ayah bisa menjadi teman yang bisa membuat tertawa, membuat bahagia, menolong pada saat susah, dan lain lain, sampai kapan pun....friends forever !!
ayah tahu bahwa akan selalu menjadi teman untuk kamu libby.... sebaliknya pula kamu akan selalu menemani ayah kemana pun ayah pergi karena kamu ada di dalam hati ayah...
cium sayang, your bestest best friend...
ayah dicky
Alhamdulillah
Hi sayangku...
hari sabtu pagi nih liv, mommy sedang pergi ke seminar yang diadain sama Tigaraksa... ceritanya dia jadi pembicara di sana.. hebat ya mommy... katanya sih dia disuruh share pengalaman membesarkan anak-anak dengan buku dan gimana caranya ngajarin anak-anak baca dan berbicara dengan bahasa inggris.... ayah di rumah disuruh jagain adelle sama aliyya... eh adik-adik kamu malah main ke rumah laras... ya terang aja di sana lebih fun kali ya buat mereka...
rumah berasa sepi banget ya kalau nggak ada siapa-siapa... biasanya ribut sama suara aliyya yang kayaknya nggak bisa berenti ngomong.... cerewet banget deh dia liv.. lebih-lebih dari kamu cerewetnya...
di kesepian pagi ini sambil ditemenin sama kopi dan music dari ipod.. ayah merenung dan liat ke sekeliling... di rumah... ayah makin sadar bahwa ayah patut bersyukur sama Allah SWT... ayah sudah diberi nikmat yang luar biasa....kayaknya dulu waktu ayah SMA atau bahkan waktu kuliah nggak kebayang deh bisa punya semua ini... ayah kan bukan lahir dari keluarga kaya liv... kamu tahu sendiri walaupun aki dan nini nggak kekurangan secara materi tapi juga yang nggak punya harta berlebih-lebihan... ayah, wa willy semuanya merangkak sendiri-sendiri..aki dan nini cuma kasih ilmu dan kasih sayang untuk kita semua (sesuatu yang ayah syukuri jauh dibandingkan dengan harta apa pun yang mungkin bisa diberikan oleh beliau). sekarang ayah sudah punya semua yang dulu tidak pernah terpikirkan... ayah punya mommy yang cantik dan baik luar biasa, anak-anak yang cantik dan pintar, materi yang cukup, pekerjaan yang baik, dll...secara materi memang ayah tidak kaya tetapi ya cukup aja... cukup buat beli jam rolex, jas hugo boss, mobil mercedes,beliin mommy berlian, beliin tas LV, buat berlibur ke luar negeri,dll.... he he he...
kalau dipikir lebih jauh... kayaknya emang harusnya kita habis-habisnya bersyukur sama Allah SWT. bahkan kadang-kadang kita take it for granted hal-hal yang kayak sepele padahal luar biasa kalau kita tidak memiliki lagi... contohnya kita suka tidak sadar bahwa hal kecil seperti pipis aja sebenernya sangat patut untuk disyukuri.. coba kalau kita nggak bisa pipis dua hari aja.. pasti sakit banget... kita masih diberi kemampuan untuk bicara, melihat, merasakan, berjalan, dll.. sesuatu yang sepertinya sangat-sangat biasa padahal kalau kita kehilangan hal-hal tersebut bagaimana tersiksanya kita... tapi memang manusia tidak pandai bersyukur ya liv.. makanya Allah SWT berulang-ulang di surat Ar Rahman bertanya kepada manusia, nikmat Allah mana lagi yang kita dustakan...
(Alhamdulillah ya Allah atas semua nikmat yang telah kau berikan untuk kami semua...)
semoga ayah bisa terus mensyukuri apa yang telah diberikan oleh Allah SWT kepada kita semua...
ayah pergi dulu ya liv... biasa, mau bawa adelle dan aliyya jalan-jalan... aliyya lagi seneeeeng banget sama Frapuccino Caramel-nya starbuck... masa anak kecil udah seneng sama starbuck ya liv....
bye hunny... talk to you again later, okay...
ayah dicky
hari sabtu pagi nih liv, mommy sedang pergi ke seminar yang diadain sama Tigaraksa... ceritanya dia jadi pembicara di sana.. hebat ya mommy... katanya sih dia disuruh share pengalaman membesarkan anak-anak dengan buku dan gimana caranya ngajarin anak-anak baca dan berbicara dengan bahasa inggris.... ayah di rumah disuruh jagain adelle sama aliyya... eh adik-adik kamu malah main ke rumah laras... ya terang aja di sana lebih fun kali ya buat mereka...
rumah berasa sepi banget ya kalau nggak ada siapa-siapa... biasanya ribut sama suara aliyya yang kayaknya nggak bisa berenti ngomong.... cerewet banget deh dia liv.. lebih-lebih dari kamu cerewetnya...
di kesepian pagi ini sambil ditemenin sama kopi dan music dari ipod.. ayah merenung dan liat ke sekeliling... di rumah... ayah makin sadar bahwa ayah patut bersyukur sama Allah SWT... ayah sudah diberi nikmat yang luar biasa....kayaknya dulu waktu ayah SMA atau bahkan waktu kuliah nggak kebayang deh bisa punya semua ini... ayah kan bukan lahir dari keluarga kaya liv... kamu tahu sendiri walaupun aki dan nini nggak kekurangan secara materi tapi juga yang nggak punya harta berlebih-lebihan... ayah, wa willy semuanya merangkak sendiri-sendiri..aki dan nini cuma kasih ilmu dan kasih sayang untuk kita semua (sesuatu yang ayah syukuri jauh dibandingkan dengan harta apa pun yang mungkin bisa diberikan oleh beliau). sekarang ayah sudah punya semua yang dulu tidak pernah terpikirkan... ayah punya mommy yang cantik dan baik luar biasa, anak-anak yang cantik dan pintar, materi yang cukup, pekerjaan yang baik, dll...secara materi memang ayah tidak kaya tetapi ya cukup aja... cukup buat beli jam rolex, jas hugo boss, mobil mercedes,beliin mommy berlian, beliin tas LV, buat berlibur ke luar negeri,dll.... he he he...
kalau dipikir lebih jauh... kayaknya emang harusnya kita habis-habisnya bersyukur sama Allah SWT. bahkan kadang-kadang kita take it for granted hal-hal yang kayak sepele padahal luar biasa kalau kita tidak memiliki lagi... contohnya kita suka tidak sadar bahwa hal kecil seperti pipis aja sebenernya sangat patut untuk disyukuri.. coba kalau kita nggak bisa pipis dua hari aja.. pasti sakit banget... kita masih diberi kemampuan untuk bicara, melihat, merasakan, berjalan, dll.. sesuatu yang sepertinya sangat-sangat biasa padahal kalau kita kehilangan hal-hal tersebut bagaimana tersiksanya kita... tapi memang manusia tidak pandai bersyukur ya liv.. makanya Allah SWT berulang-ulang di surat Ar Rahman bertanya kepada manusia, nikmat Allah mana lagi yang kita dustakan...
(Alhamdulillah ya Allah atas semua nikmat yang telah kau berikan untuk kami semua...)
semoga ayah bisa terus mensyukuri apa yang telah diberikan oleh Allah SWT kepada kita semua...
ayah pergi dulu ya liv... biasa, mau bawa adelle dan aliyya jalan-jalan... aliyya lagi seneeeeng banget sama Frapuccino Caramel-nya starbuck... masa anak kecil udah seneng sama starbuck ya liv....
bye hunny... talk to you again later, okay...
ayah dicky
Life is Full of Choices
Hi darling…
today tante amy is having her birthday… we are still in sol elite marbela anyer and we all forgot, ha ha ha… she started to sing happy birthday for herself…. Just then everybody gave her birthday wishes… today we still hang out in the beach… played all day in the beach and the swimming pool…. You must know that we don’t have anything else to do in Anyer beside playing in the beach and the swimming pool… I was gonna get my temporary tattoos but I couldn’t find design of Bango bird with Tagline “Benar-Benar Kecap”… he he he… I remember when we were in Bali and I was gonna get a tattoo.. you protested and said that tattoo doesn’t look good in me… may be you right, liv…
Today I want to talk about “choices”… I really believe that life if full of choices, we just have to know the consequences for every choice….so we can make a conscious choice rather than just choosing things that we don’t know…. We can choose to feel sad, or to feel happy…. Nothing stopping you if you wanna be happy…. or even if you choose to be sad… it’s true that Allah SWT has the final decision for the outcomes of choices that we have made… but often time we can already predict what the outcomes will be… here are the examples..if you choose to eat properly, exercise regularly.. the most probable outcome is that you will be healthy (it’s true that Allah SWT might not give you health although you have eaten properly and do exercise, but in most cases Allah SWT usually will). If you study hard, most probable outcome that you will be smarter. Lance Amstrong once said “The more I practice, the luckier I get”… If you choose to drive recklessly there’s a big chance that the consequences are you’ll get accidents.see, most of the time people can already predict what will be the outcome or consequences of their choices… once again I don’t deny that Allah SWT still hold to he final outcome deemed best for us according to Him/Her.. but in many (if not most cases) we can already predict the outcomes. Therefore ,I don’t really believe when Forrest Gump said that “Life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you’re gonna get”. It’s true that God will decide for us and we don’t know what’s gonna happen in the future.. but actually we have the choice to make up the future… if we take a box of chocolate as an analogy… we can still choose what box of chocolate are we getting, after we get the box of chocolate we still can choose which one to be eaten first, which one last. If we choose dark chocolate then we know that the most probable outcome is the chocolate will be a bit bitter compared to regular one…
This apply to anything in life, who said that we can’t shape our future ?? we can (although we have to accept that Allah SWT still knows what’s best for us). We can choose to become rich people by working really hard, really smart, we can choose to be smart guy by learning hard..
Got my point liv ?? as now, I can choose to let you go and try to forget you… but I choose to keep your memory intact in my mind… I like it…I know the consequences would be I might often be sad …. But that’s okay..I have chosen and I know the consequences…
I have chosen to continue loving you…
Ayah dicky..
today tante amy is having her birthday… we are still in sol elite marbela anyer and we all forgot, ha ha ha… she started to sing happy birthday for herself…. Just then everybody gave her birthday wishes… today we still hang out in the beach… played all day in the beach and the swimming pool…. You must know that we don’t have anything else to do in Anyer beside playing in the beach and the swimming pool… I was gonna get my temporary tattoos but I couldn’t find design of Bango bird with Tagline “Benar-Benar Kecap”… he he he… I remember when we were in Bali and I was gonna get a tattoo.. you protested and said that tattoo doesn’t look good in me… may be you right, liv…
Today I want to talk about “choices”… I really believe that life if full of choices, we just have to know the consequences for every choice….so we can make a conscious choice rather than just choosing things that we don’t know…. We can choose to feel sad, or to feel happy…. Nothing stopping you if you wanna be happy…. or even if you choose to be sad… it’s true that Allah SWT has the final decision for the outcomes of choices that we have made… but often time we can already predict what the outcomes will be… here are the examples..if you choose to eat properly, exercise regularly.. the most probable outcome is that you will be healthy (it’s true that Allah SWT might not give you health although you have eaten properly and do exercise, but in most cases Allah SWT usually will). If you study hard, most probable outcome that you will be smarter. Lance Amstrong once said “The more I practice, the luckier I get”… If you choose to drive recklessly there’s a big chance that the consequences are you’ll get accidents.see, most of the time people can already predict what will be the outcome or consequences of their choices… once again I don’t deny that Allah SWT still hold to he final outcome deemed best for us according to Him/Her.. but in many (if not most cases) we can already predict the outcomes. Therefore ,I don’t really believe when Forrest Gump said that “Life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you’re gonna get”. It’s true that God will decide for us and we don’t know what’s gonna happen in the future.. but actually we have the choice to make up the future… if we take a box of chocolate as an analogy… we can still choose what box of chocolate are we getting, after we get the box of chocolate we still can choose which one to be eaten first, which one last. If we choose dark chocolate then we know that the most probable outcome is the chocolate will be a bit bitter compared to regular one…
This apply to anything in life, who said that we can’t shape our future ?? we can (although we have to accept that Allah SWT still knows what’s best for us). We can choose to become rich people by working really hard, really smart, we can choose to be smart guy by learning hard..
Got my point liv ?? as now, I can choose to let you go and try to forget you… but I choose to keep your memory intact in my mind… I like it…I know the consequences would be I might often be sad …. But that’s okay..I have chosen and I know the consequences…
I have chosen to continue loving you…
Ayah dicky..
Tribute to full time mom
Dearest Libby my hunny...
How’s the weather in heaven ?? I’m sure the weather is always nice, warm,& sunny ya , Liv? Or is it changeable as you wish ?? weather in Jakarta has started to rain again…
Last week on the way from Durban to Johannesburg , I have a long discussion with my friend from Philippines , her name is Joko (lucu ya namanya kayak orang Jawa… padahal nama lengkapnya Jo Katherine Ko) on working and non working woman. The conversation started with me telling her, how grateful I am as a person, as a husband, & as a father. (I really am Liv.. I think Allah SWT has granted me so much to me…). Earlier in the meeting room, Joko saw my wallpaper on the computer which has pictures of you, Adelle, and Aliyya… what can you do.. I’m a proud dad… She said that I have three very pretty princesses. I told her about you and she was so sorry to hear that, although she has slightly known the story from somebody else. Then the discussion went on to a topic on working and non working woman/mom…. I told her that mommy stop working when she got married to me…it’s her conscious decision to stop working to devote herself to us. I told Joko that mommy is actually much smarter than me, so the decision to stop working was really a big sacrifice for her. However, it’s not like I asked her to stop working. We discussed on what are the risks and benefits of her working. Which eventually came to conclusion that it will be better for all of us if she stop working and really devote her time for us (lebih besar mudharat daripada manfaat if she continued working). I told Joko that I really appreciate mommy’s decision and sacrifice. I never undermine her of not working and leaving me to become the only breadwinner for the family. In fact, I believe what mommy’s doing in day to day is much harder, more noble, and tiring compared to what I do day to day… so in nutshell.. I really respect her so much for what she does…don’t get me wrong, Liv, I also respect and admire mom who is working and can balance between work and family… however in my case, I put higher respect for non working mom (like mommy), reason being apart from what I have mentioned above, full time housewife is really a tough job !! she’s sacrificing her own ego, sacrificing her ambition, not to mention 24 hours handling domestic issues (including hassle to feed the children, taking care the children, ensuring children’s well being, health etc) is really a hard and tough job. No wonder, many full time mom is actually more stressful than working mom…(isn’t it ???).
So therefore liv, I want to say to all fulltime housewife/ mom reading this love letter…be proud of yourself !! you contribute much more (if not the most) to the family.. you deserve a recognition (or rewards if possible, right liv ?)
Gotta go liv… I’m a bit hungry…have you eaten yet ?? I wonder what you eat in heaven… let me know my darling…
Lots of kisses and big hugs
Ayah dicky
How’s the weather in heaven ?? I’m sure the weather is always nice, warm,& sunny ya , Liv? Or is it changeable as you wish ?? weather in Jakarta has started to rain again…
Last week on the way from Durban to Johannesburg , I have a long discussion with my friend from Philippines , her name is Joko (lucu ya namanya kayak orang Jawa… padahal nama lengkapnya Jo Katherine Ko) on working and non working woman. The conversation started with me telling her, how grateful I am as a person, as a husband, & as a father. (I really am Liv.. I think Allah SWT has granted me so much to me…). Earlier in the meeting room, Joko saw my wallpaper on the computer which has pictures of you, Adelle, and Aliyya… what can you do.. I’m a proud dad… She said that I have three very pretty princesses. I told her about you and she was so sorry to hear that, although she has slightly known the story from somebody else. Then the discussion went on to a topic on working and non working woman/mom…. I told her that mommy stop working when she got married to me…it’s her conscious decision to stop working to devote herself to us. I told Joko that mommy is actually much smarter than me, so the decision to stop working was really a big sacrifice for her. However, it’s not like I asked her to stop working. We discussed on what are the risks and benefits of her working. Which eventually came to conclusion that it will be better for all of us if she stop working and really devote her time for us (lebih besar mudharat daripada manfaat if she continued working). I told Joko that I really appreciate mommy’s decision and sacrifice. I never undermine her of not working and leaving me to become the only breadwinner for the family. In fact, I believe what mommy’s doing in day to day is much harder, more noble, and tiring compared to what I do day to day… so in nutshell.. I really respect her so much for what she does…don’t get me wrong, Liv, I also respect and admire mom who is working and can balance between work and family… however in my case, I put higher respect for non working mom (like mommy), reason being apart from what I have mentioned above, full time housewife is really a tough job !! she’s sacrificing her own ego, sacrificing her ambition, not to mention 24 hours handling domestic issues (including hassle to feed the children, taking care the children, ensuring children’s well being, health etc) is really a hard and tough job. No wonder, many full time mom is actually more stressful than working mom…(isn’t it ???).
So therefore liv, I want to say to all fulltime housewife/ mom reading this love letter…be proud of yourself !! you contribute much more (if not the most) to the family.. you deserve a recognition (or rewards if possible, right liv ?)
Gotta go liv… I’m a bit hungry…have you eaten yet ?? I wonder what you eat in heaven… let me know my darling…
Lots of kisses and big hugs
Ayah dicky
By the River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept
Hi Sweetie,
Lagi ngapain my angel ?? ayah lagi di manila nih, liv…udah tiga hari di sini…ada Regional Brand Team meeting SCC…tapi besok juga udah pulang ke Jakarta sih, terus jumatnya kita semua mau ke anyer…ayah inget libby seneng banget main ke anyer.. padahal nggak ada apa-apa di sana… mungkin bagi kamu yang penting ada pantai udah cukup kali ya liv ?? Cuma memang kamu lebih suka Bali sih… walaupun the thrilled pergi ke bali adalah karena bisa naik pesawat kan liv ??
Ayah baru pulang dari Mall nih, liv … nggak beli apa-apa sih… tokh barang-barang di Jakarta juga udah komplit, bahkan mungkin lebih komplit dari manila.. Cuma kamu inget nggak minggu lalu ayah cerita sama kamu bahwa ayah beli buku banyak di Borders Singapore… ternyata setelah ayah bandingkan, harganya jauuuuuh lebih murah di sini, liv…. Ayah beliin Mommy buku Harry Potter The Deathly Hollow, yang di Jakarta harganya 325 ribu, terus di Borders 290rb, eh ternyata di Powerbooks sini cuma 250 ribu.. wah ayah langsung saja borong banyak banget buku… ayah beli buku-buku Blues Clues dan Disneys untuk Aliyya, terus ayah beli buku Roald Dahl lagi untuk Adelle… sambil ayah sendiri beli beberapa buku business dan beli semua buku Paulo Coelho karena muuurrraaah banget deh di sini… (masa buku Paulo Coelho Cuma 50 ribuan).. akibatnya… koper ayah nggak bisa ditutup dan berat banget… belum lagi ayah beli dried mango kesenangan si mommy buanyak banget….susah deh nutup koper nya…ayah juga beli banyak banget DVD original Hi5 kesenengan Aliyya.. di Jakarta nggak ada soalnya…
Oh iya… ayah lagi baca salah satu buku Paulo Coelho yang ayah beli tadi judulnya By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept…ini cuplikan nya nih liv…
By THE RIVER Piedra I sat down and wept. There is a legend that everything that falls into the waters of this river- leaves, insect, the feathers of birds- is transformed into the rocks that make the riverbed. If only I could tear out my heart and hurl it into the current, then my pain and longing would be over, and I could finally forget.
By the River Piedra I sat down and wept. The winter air chills the tears on my cheeks, and my tears fall into the cold waters that course past me. Somewhere, the river joins another, then another, until- far from my heart and sight- all of them merge with the sea.
May my tears run just as far, that my love might never know that one day I cried for him. May my tears run just as far, that might forget the River Piedra, the monastery, the church in the Pyrenees, the mists and the pasts we walked together.
I shall forget the roads, the mountains, and the fields of my dreams- the dreams that will never come true.
I remember my “magic moment”- that instant when a “yes” or a “no” can change one’s life forever. It seems so long ago now. It is hard to believe that it was only last week that I had found my love once again, and then lost him.
I am writing this story on the bank of the River Piedra. My hands are freezing, my legs are numb, and every minute I want to stop.
“Seek to live. Remembrance is for the old,” he said.
Perhaps love make us old before time- or young, of youth has passed. But how can I not recall those moments? That is why I write- to try to turn my sadness into longing, solitude into remembrance. So that when I finish telling myself the story, I can toss it to the Piedra. That’s what the woman who has given me shelter told me to do . Only then- in the words of one of the saints- will the water extinguish what the flames have written.
All love stories are the same.
Excerpt from the Book “ By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept” by Paulo Coelho
Bagus banget ya liv… cocok banget sama cerita ayah sekarang ini… my love story with you…nanti kalau ayah udah selesai bacanya ayah cerita sama libby…
Udah dulu ya libby ku sayang… udah jam 23.00 di sini..ayah mau beres-beres dulu, karena besok ayah harus bangun jam 4.30 pagi waktu manila (yang artinya jam 3.30 waktu Jakarta). Mudah-mudahan besok nggak hujan karena tadi pagi di sini hujan nya kenceeeeng banget sama angin sampe banjir di mana-mana…
Big hugs and lots of kisses…you’re still in my dreams, dreams that will never come true..
ayah dicky..
Lagi ngapain my angel ?? ayah lagi di manila nih, liv…udah tiga hari di sini…ada Regional Brand Team meeting SCC…tapi besok juga udah pulang ke Jakarta sih, terus jumatnya kita semua mau ke anyer…ayah inget libby seneng banget main ke anyer.. padahal nggak ada apa-apa di sana… mungkin bagi kamu yang penting ada pantai udah cukup kali ya liv ?? Cuma memang kamu lebih suka Bali sih… walaupun the thrilled pergi ke bali adalah karena bisa naik pesawat kan liv ??
Ayah baru pulang dari Mall nih, liv … nggak beli apa-apa sih… tokh barang-barang di Jakarta juga udah komplit, bahkan mungkin lebih komplit dari manila.. Cuma kamu inget nggak minggu lalu ayah cerita sama kamu bahwa ayah beli buku banyak di Borders Singapore… ternyata setelah ayah bandingkan, harganya jauuuuuh lebih murah di sini, liv…. Ayah beliin Mommy buku Harry Potter The Deathly Hollow, yang di Jakarta harganya 325 ribu, terus di Borders 290rb, eh ternyata di Powerbooks sini cuma 250 ribu.. wah ayah langsung saja borong banyak banget buku… ayah beli buku-buku Blues Clues dan Disneys untuk Aliyya, terus ayah beli buku Roald Dahl lagi untuk Adelle… sambil ayah sendiri beli beberapa buku business dan beli semua buku Paulo Coelho karena muuurrraaah banget deh di sini… (masa buku Paulo Coelho Cuma 50 ribuan).. akibatnya… koper ayah nggak bisa ditutup dan berat banget… belum lagi ayah beli dried mango kesenangan si mommy buanyak banget….susah deh nutup koper nya…ayah juga beli banyak banget DVD original Hi5 kesenengan Aliyya.. di Jakarta nggak ada soalnya…
Oh iya… ayah lagi baca salah satu buku Paulo Coelho yang ayah beli tadi judulnya By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept…ini cuplikan nya nih liv…
By THE RIVER Piedra I sat down and wept. There is a legend that everything that falls into the waters of this river- leaves, insect, the feathers of birds- is transformed into the rocks that make the riverbed. If only I could tear out my heart and hurl it into the current, then my pain and longing would be over, and I could finally forget.
By the River Piedra I sat down and wept. The winter air chills the tears on my cheeks, and my tears fall into the cold waters that course past me. Somewhere, the river joins another, then another, until- far from my heart and sight- all of them merge with the sea.
May my tears run just as far, that my love might never know that one day I cried for him. May my tears run just as far, that might forget the River Piedra, the monastery, the church in the Pyrenees, the mists and the pasts we walked together.
I shall forget the roads, the mountains, and the fields of my dreams- the dreams that will never come true.
I remember my “magic moment”- that instant when a “yes” or a “no” can change one’s life forever. It seems so long ago now. It is hard to believe that it was only last week that I had found my love once again, and then lost him.
I am writing this story on the bank of the River Piedra. My hands are freezing, my legs are numb, and every minute I want to stop.
“Seek to live. Remembrance is for the old,” he said.
Perhaps love make us old before time- or young, of youth has passed. But how can I not recall those moments? That is why I write- to try to turn my sadness into longing, solitude into remembrance. So that when I finish telling myself the story, I can toss it to the Piedra. That’s what the woman who has given me shelter told me to do . Only then- in the words of one of the saints- will the water extinguish what the flames have written.
All love stories are the same.
Excerpt from the Book “ By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept” by Paulo Coelho
Bagus banget ya liv… cocok banget sama cerita ayah sekarang ini… my love story with you…nanti kalau ayah udah selesai bacanya ayah cerita sama libby…
Udah dulu ya libby ku sayang… udah jam 23.00 di sini..ayah mau beres-beres dulu, karena besok ayah harus bangun jam 4.30 pagi waktu manila (yang artinya jam 3.30 waktu Jakarta). Mudah-mudahan besok nggak hujan karena tadi pagi di sini hujan nya kenceeeeng banget sama angin sampe banjir di mana-mana…
Big hugs and lots of kisses…you’re still in my dreams, dreams that will never come true..
ayah dicky..
Will time really heal ??
Hi sweetie..
today I want to discuss with you about a saying " Time will heal" that many people often say to somebody when they try to comfort a person (usually when a person experienced bad things). This saying is also often said to a person who is broken hearted.
in my case, people kept saying this "Time will heal" thing since you went home to heaven. I know they were trying to comfort me, trying to give motivation to continue living. As often I told you, my life felt falling appart when you leave me... so, of course when people said that time will heal, i certainly hope and expect that there's some truth in that saying...I really hope time will pass by quickly and I could continue living without missing you so much...
Now, apparently after you had been gone for about 4 years now, I still miss you a lot !! I still miss your smiles, i still miss your hugs, I still miss your kisses, I even still remember almost every detail of what you usually do when you were still around. I still miss you ssssoooo much... therefore, is there any truth in the saying "Time will heal"... I think when it comes to feeling, especially if it's so much related with love... time will not heal... at least will not totally heal the wound. it will improve your condition but it won't heal your wound.. the wound from time to time will appear to the surface and hurt you... time will help you ease the pain though, but it won't heal... it's like broken porcellain... no matter how good you try to fit it, it won't be the same... the scar has been registered and not even best cosmetic/ plastic surgeon will be able to eliminate the scar (heart scar).
I have read so many books on grief and bereavement and apparently my theory is very much inline (especially for parents losing their children, but I guess my theory is also applied to many type of grief)
gotta go libby...talk to you later
Still and always love you much...
daddy.
today I want to discuss with you about a saying " Time will heal" that many people often say to somebody when they try to comfort a person (usually when a person experienced bad things). This saying is also often said to a person who is broken hearted.
in my case, people kept saying this "Time will heal" thing since you went home to heaven. I know they were trying to comfort me, trying to give motivation to continue living. As often I told you, my life felt falling appart when you leave me... so, of course when people said that time will heal, i certainly hope and expect that there's some truth in that saying...I really hope time will pass by quickly and I could continue living without missing you so much...
Now, apparently after you had been gone for about 4 years now, I still miss you a lot !! I still miss your smiles, i still miss your hugs, I still miss your kisses, I even still remember almost every detail of what you usually do when you were still around. I still miss you ssssoooo much... therefore, is there any truth in the saying "Time will heal"... I think when it comes to feeling, especially if it's so much related with love... time will not heal... at least will not totally heal the wound. it will improve your condition but it won't heal your wound.. the wound from time to time will appear to the surface and hurt you... time will help you ease the pain though, but it won't heal... it's like broken porcellain... no matter how good you try to fit it, it won't be the same... the scar has been registered and not even best cosmetic/ plastic surgeon will be able to eliminate the scar (heart scar).
I have read so many books on grief and bereavement and apparently my theory is very much inline (especially for parents losing their children, but I guess my theory is also applied to many type of grief)
gotta go libby...talk to you later
Still and always love you much...
daddy.
Winter in Africa !!
Hi sweetheart !!
Ayah is in Durban, South Africa now... yesterday I was hanging around in the Changi airport for almost 12 hours...good thing WiFi is free in Business Class Lounge.... had downloaded few good clips from youtube... food was also not bad... not too mention free flow of various drinks... time flew so fast yesterday without realizing it's almost 12 hours I was in the airport..my flight to Johannesburg was delayed for almost 40 minutes, something which is very unusual for Singapore Airlines.. Met my ex boss May Kwah who is based in Bangkok now...(you still remember her, right liv ??) had a good chat with her for a while.. exchanging stories. She was with her family , coming back from their summer break. Chat with Tante Inel who is in Melbourne now...quite nice to keep me from boredom. keep texting with mommy as well ( I need to teach mommy to chat I think since SMS proven quite expensive if being done from abroad)...after wondering around in all of the shops in Changi and shalat Maghrib & Isya, I decided to have noodle and comeback to the lounge afterword (mommy teased me that I sound like Tom Hanks in the movie "Terminal").
The trip to Johannesburg take about 11 hours in length but we have time advantage so after leaving Changi at 2.50 am, I arrived in Johannesburg at 07.55 in the morning. I just found out that South Africa is in winter !!! although, there is no snow here, but still it's very-very cold, almost everybody was wearing thick jacket and overcoats. Stupid me, I should have asked Naidoo (Mick's secretary) on the attire.. I brought really light clothes... I thought it's still summer...(not realizing that South Africa is in southern hemisphere, like Australia, that make August is still winter, unlike in the states which is still summer now). When I arrived in the O.R Tambo International airport, the temperature was only 7 degrees centigrade. It's realy cold, liv !!, and from international arrival terminal I had to walk in the outside for about 150 meter to domestic departure terminal. Another delay !! good thing it was only 20 minutes delay.. I arrive in Durban around 12 o'clock and headed straight to the hotel in Umhlanga (which is about 45 minutes from Durban city). Umhlanga is suburb of Durban, the population I think it's predominantly white and quite upscale area.. a lot of nice houses and nice neighborhood.. since this is the second time I was here, nothing is surprising anymore.... When it was the first time, I couldn't believe to see how beautiful South Africa is.. Durban is situated in shore of Indian Ocean, so houses overlooking the beach were really nice. Our office (especially for some of regional team) is overlooking the ocean... they have a really beautiful canteen in which they have a balcony with ocean view... wonderful and very stunning !! Durban is warmer than Johannesburg since it's in the coastal area. But it is stil quite chill (about 15 degrees centigrade). My hotel is situated in front of the biggest and the most modern mall in Durban. so I had lunch in the mall, after bought local number for my phone to avoid crazy roaming cost. You'd be surprise libby that there are many Indian live here... so I see white, black, and Indian as the inhabitants of Durban.
now, it's your turn to tell me about where you have been in heaven.... tell me what it's like...
gotta go libby,I have to prepare for maghrib then I'm having dinner with all of the team members..it's almost 18 o clock here, which is around 23 in Indonesia..mommy has already slept couple of hours ago...talk to you later okay..
lots of love
ayah..
Ayah is in Durban, South Africa now... yesterday I was hanging around in the Changi airport for almost 12 hours...good thing WiFi is free in Business Class Lounge.... had downloaded few good clips from youtube... food was also not bad... not too mention free flow of various drinks... time flew so fast yesterday without realizing it's almost 12 hours I was in the airport..my flight to Johannesburg was delayed for almost 40 minutes, something which is very unusual for Singapore Airlines.. Met my ex boss May Kwah who is based in Bangkok now...(you still remember her, right liv ??) had a good chat with her for a while.. exchanging stories. She was with her family , coming back from their summer break. Chat with Tante Inel who is in Melbourne now...quite nice to keep me from boredom. keep texting with mommy as well ( I need to teach mommy to chat I think since SMS proven quite expensive if being done from abroad)...after wondering around in all of the shops in Changi and shalat Maghrib & Isya, I decided to have noodle and comeback to the lounge afterword (mommy teased me that I sound like Tom Hanks in the movie "Terminal").
The trip to Johannesburg take about 11 hours in length but we have time advantage so after leaving Changi at 2.50 am, I arrived in Johannesburg at 07.55 in the morning. I just found out that South Africa is in winter !!! although, there is no snow here, but still it's very-very cold, almost everybody was wearing thick jacket and overcoats. Stupid me, I should have asked Naidoo (Mick's secretary) on the attire.. I brought really light clothes... I thought it's still summer...(not realizing that South Africa is in southern hemisphere, like Australia, that make August is still winter, unlike in the states which is still summer now). When I arrived in the O.R Tambo International airport, the temperature was only 7 degrees centigrade. It's realy cold, liv !!, and from international arrival terminal I had to walk in the outside for about 150 meter to domestic departure terminal. Another delay !! good thing it was only 20 minutes delay.. I arrive in Durban around 12 o'clock and headed straight to the hotel in Umhlanga (which is about 45 minutes from Durban city). Umhlanga is suburb of Durban, the population I think it's predominantly white and quite upscale area.. a lot of nice houses and nice neighborhood.. since this is the second time I was here, nothing is surprising anymore.... When it was the first time, I couldn't believe to see how beautiful South Africa is.. Durban is situated in shore of Indian Ocean, so houses overlooking the beach were really nice. Our office (especially for some of regional team) is overlooking the ocean... they have a really beautiful canteen in which they have a balcony with ocean view... wonderful and very stunning !! Durban is warmer than Johannesburg since it's in the coastal area. But it is stil quite chill (about 15 degrees centigrade). My hotel is situated in front of the biggest and the most modern mall in Durban. so I had lunch in the mall, after bought local number for my phone to avoid crazy roaming cost. You'd be surprise libby that there are many Indian live here... so I see white, black, and Indian as the inhabitants of Durban.
now, it's your turn to tell me about where you have been in heaven.... tell me what it's like...
gotta go libby,I have to prepare for maghrib then I'm having dinner with all of the team members..it's almost 18 o clock here, which is around 23 in Indonesia..mommy has already slept couple of hours ago...talk to you later okay..
lots of love
ayah..
Travelling
Hi again Libby
My little princess,... this past few months have been quite hectic for me with all of those travelling abroad and important visitors coming to our office so I don't have time to talk to you. but I promise to spend more time to talk to you, to tell you on what's going on around me and around our family lately. on the travelling part, now at least once a month I have to go abroad, as I said, next week I have to go to Durban, south africa to attend a workshop on D&E market, the following week I have to go to Manila for the RBT. Thank God I don't have anything on September on my agenda (it's fasting time). On first and second week of October I supposed to go to Rotterdam for a course but I have decided to postpone it to next year since I don't want to miss puasa too much. couple of days before lebaran I supposed to go to manila again for savoury RBT but I managed to talk to suppatra (our regional boss) to postpone it after the lebaran. so then after lebaran I will go to Manila again, then followed with trip to London to visit wa willy who is moving to London next month.then, Insya Allah we will continue to go to Paris directly in which I want to spend mommy's birthday party in Eiffel Tower (isn't it romantic). Hopefully mommy will be happy going to Europe with me... many of my friends say that I'm lucky to be able to travel quite often, but honestly it's not a fun travelling at all... it's suck ! on the plane for more than 10 hours than continued right away with full days debating things is not my idea of fun.not too mention preparation beforehand, preparing materials for the meeting (data, presentation materials, etc.) it's actually really tiring, and worse thing is that I don't really have time to enjoy the place I'm visiting. whole days in the meeting room...ok, may be a little during at night for a dinner... but that's it. What will be nice is if you could go around the country, do sight seing, do some shopping. telecommunication cost is also killing me, sms, (the cheapest mean of communication) turn out to be quite costly too is we do it too often. and of course i can not stop communicating with mommy, with adelle, with aliyya...so all and all.. travelling abroad for business purposes is not fun at all.. it's suck !! Now of course it will be different if I'm travelling with you, and mommy, and adelle, and aliyya... although the cost of shopping could go up to the roof ( you know mommy's urge for shopping, right libby??). It's a pity that we haven't had chance to go anywhere abroad... the furthest that we have been was only Bali... but you were very happy already at that time..I'm sure you'll be thrilled if we could go to somewhere further... something with snow in it...anyway,... you could do it anytime now...
Wa willy is moving to london to start a new job as talent and organizational development director in Unilever Asia Amet. such a fancy title, huh libby ? your buddy Laras and Fadlan will go later (after lebaran since they have to find school for them). If you're still around, I could imagine that you will want to go with Laras since Laras is your bestest best friend. anyway, you could always visit her in her dream wherever she is. I remember Laras told me that she had a dream with you coming to her dream and play together. something that you haven't been doing to me lately...I miss you so much dear.. please come again to my dream..
okay then, I got to check out now...and go to the airport although my flight will not come till 2 o clock at night.
kisses and hugs
daddy
My little princess,... this past few months have been quite hectic for me with all of those travelling abroad and important visitors coming to our office so I don't have time to talk to you. but I promise to spend more time to talk to you, to tell you on what's going on around me and around our family lately. on the travelling part, now at least once a month I have to go abroad, as I said, next week I have to go to Durban, south africa to attend a workshop on D&E market, the following week I have to go to Manila for the RBT. Thank God I don't have anything on September on my agenda (it's fasting time). On first and second week of October I supposed to go to Rotterdam for a course but I have decided to postpone it to next year since I don't want to miss puasa too much. couple of days before lebaran I supposed to go to manila again for savoury RBT but I managed to talk to suppatra (our regional boss) to postpone it after the lebaran. so then after lebaran I will go to Manila again, then followed with trip to London to visit wa willy who is moving to London next month.then, Insya Allah we will continue to go to Paris directly in which I want to spend mommy's birthday party in Eiffel Tower (isn't it romantic). Hopefully mommy will be happy going to Europe with me... many of my friends say that I'm lucky to be able to travel quite often, but honestly it's not a fun travelling at all... it's suck ! on the plane for more than 10 hours than continued right away with full days debating things is not my idea of fun.not too mention preparation beforehand, preparing materials for the meeting (data, presentation materials, etc.) it's actually really tiring, and worse thing is that I don't really have time to enjoy the place I'm visiting. whole days in the meeting room...ok, may be a little during at night for a dinner... but that's it. What will be nice is if you could go around the country, do sight seing, do some shopping. telecommunication cost is also killing me, sms, (the cheapest mean of communication) turn out to be quite costly too is we do it too often. and of course i can not stop communicating with mommy, with adelle, with aliyya...so all and all.. travelling abroad for business purposes is not fun at all.. it's suck !! Now of course it will be different if I'm travelling with you, and mommy, and adelle, and aliyya... although the cost of shopping could go up to the roof ( you know mommy's urge for shopping, right libby??). It's a pity that we haven't had chance to go anywhere abroad... the furthest that we have been was only Bali... but you were very happy already at that time..I'm sure you'll be thrilled if we could go to somewhere further... something with snow in it...anyway,... you could do it anytime now...
Wa willy is moving to london to start a new job as talent and organizational development director in Unilever Asia Amet. such a fancy title, huh libby ? your buddy Laras and Fadlan will go later (after lebaran since they have to find school for them). If you're still around, I could imagine that you will want to go with Laras since Laras is your bestest best friend. anyway, you could always visit her in her dream wherever she is. I remember Laras told me that she had a dream with you coming to her dream and play together. something that you haven't been doing to me lately...I miss you so much dear.. please come again to my dream..
okay then, I got to check out now...and go to the airport although my flight will not come till 2 o clock at night.
kisses and hugs
daddy
Books
Hi sweetheart...
I'm in singapore now, on the way to Durban, South Africa... spend a night here to buy some books in Borders. I bought some books for Adelle and myself. I bought a lot of books by Roald Dahl for Adelle... They are much cheaper here than in Jakarta. I was going to buy the latest Harry Potter's book for Mommy,and she also she missed some of the series so I was planning to complete 'em for her, but they're too thick and too heavy to be carried in my thin suitcase all the way to south africa. I might come back again on the way back from south africa.
I bought some books too, I bought some of Paulo Coelho's books...I don't know somehow i'm into that type of books now. good books to remind ourselves of who we are...I also bought a book called "Dear Charlie", it's a collection of letters of a dad to his passed away daughter. It's really touchy and it really reminds me of what I usually do (as I'm doing now) to talk to you in spirit. I feel the connection and can really emphatize what this guy feel. Suddenly I feel that I'm lookin at myself. The book is actually so simple, as simple as my letters to you..but I guess that's the strength of the book, the simplicity and the genuine love and care that is shown in the book. a lot of people comments about my love letter to you and encourage me to keep doing it. I guess someday my letters to you would be worth publishing... who knows... But I don't care about all of that, what I care is that I can talk to you, feel your presence although not in physical.
I remember you love books so much that we bought you a complete set of books from Tigaraksa... I remember you particularly like the book on the story of Belgeduel (I forgot the complete title though) that you keep insisting me to read it for you every night. You also like the books on animal, and on human anatomy. Once you told nike that the brain (for thinking) is not really in the forehead but in the back of the head...I don't know where did you get that idea. and you were upset when we teased you that the brain is in the knee not in the head. you said that in the knee there is bone not brain...we were kidding Libby...although some of the people really doesn't have brain in their head and it's in their knee..(otak dengkul). They are especially the corruptors...
Aliyya loves books too, Adelle likes book although not as fond of as Aliyya. Aliyya can read so many books in one night . although, mommy or daddy need to read them for her that's why we told her to learn to read so she can read all the books by herself. Gotta go libby... I will try to read a book again for you someday in the heaven if God let me re-join you...
big hugs...
ayah
I'm in singapore now, on the way to Durban, South Africa... spend a night here to buy some books in Borders. I bought some books for Adelle and myself. I bought a lot of books by Roald Dahl for Adelle... They are much cheaper here than in Jakarta. I was going to buy the latest Harry Potter's book for Mommy,and she also she missed some of the series so I was planning to complete 'em for her, but they're too thick and too heavy to be carried in my thin suitcase all the way to south africa. I might come back again on the way back from south africa.
I bought some books too, I bought some of Paulo Coelho's books...I don't know somehow i'm into that type of books now. good books to remind ourselves of who we are...I also bought a book called "Dear Charlie", it's a collection of letters of a dad to his passed away daughter. It's really touchy and it really reminds me of what I usually do (as I'm doing now) to talk to you in spirit. I feel the connection and can really emphatize what this guy feel. Suddenly I feel that I'm lookin at myself. The book is actually so simple, as simple as my letters to you..but I guess that's the strength of the book, the simplicity and the genuine love and care that is shown in the book. a lot of people comments about my love letter to you and encourage me to keep doing it. I guess someday my letters to you would be worth publishing... who knows... But I don't care about all of that, what I care is that I can talk to you, feel your presence although not in physical.
I remember you love books so much that we bought you a complete set of books from Tigaraksa... I remember you particularly like the book on the story of Belgeduel (I forgot the complete title though) that you keep insisting me to read it for you every night. You also like the books on animal, and on human anatomy. Once you told nike that the brain (for thinking) is not really in the forehead but in the back of the head...I don't know where did you get that idea. and you were upset when we teased you that the brain is in the knee not in the head. you said that in the knee there is bone not brain...we were kidding Libby...although some of the people really doesn't have brain in their head and it's in their knee..(otak dengkul). They are especially the corruptors...
Aliyya loves books too, Adelle likes book although not as fond of as Aliyya. Aliyya can read so many books in one night . although, mommy or daddy need to read them for her that's why we told her to learn to read so she can read all the books by herself. Gotta go libby... I will try to read a book again for you someday in the heaven if God let me re-join you...
big hugs...
ayah
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